Having already tried it and liked it, I didn't hesitate to spray liberally this morning. I sprayed my wrists, the front of my shirt and then the back of it too because hey, it's the weekend. I'm not going to bother anyone and I enjoy catching whiffs of the perfume I am wearing. Only it wasn't pleasant for me. Right away I knew it was a big mistake. The Ambergris (which I definitely think I smelled but isn't listed in the notes, and is probably what reminded me a bit of Aventus) was overpowering this time and not at all pleasant. And unless I wanted to change clothes and scrub I was stuck with it for the long haul. It wasn't so horrible that I changed, but it wasn't lovely either, and I was really looking for lovely today. The bummer for me was the fact that I have tried so many Bond No. 9's and that was the only one (and there's another I kind of liked) that I've liked. I have come to realize that even though it is a prominent house in the fragrance community, it just isn't the right one for me.
"Trying" takes a few applications!
So back to the discovery... the thing is, I have been realizing this for a short while now. That the second or third time I try a perfume I have feelings that are different than the previous times. Kilian's Love Don't be Shy is another example. The first couple of times I wore it, I liked it okay. No big deal. Yesterday, I sprayed it on my wrists to see how I felt about it, and I absolutely loved it. LOVED it. I'll be trying it a few more times to make sure before going any further than the sample.
Truthfully though, that wasn't even the first time I thought about and then forgot about the importance of trying a scent a few times before making a final decision, but now I get it. The lesson has soaked in and I will be less in a hurry to catalog and more careful to really give the scents a valid trial before making a conclusive determination.
My Son is Allergic to What?!??!?!
But he wears cologne!!
Some scents I know I love beyond any shadow of a doubt. Out of all my fragrances that I have now, there are a few that leave me 100% confindent in how I feel about them...and those have been worn several times (and the Parfums de Marly Safanad several THOUSAND times only a slight exaggeration because man, I love that perfume). But there were some that I bought too fast, before I tried them out thoroughly enough and along with the blind buys (I don't do those any more) I bought and didn't like, those have all been sold now. I also sold the strong ones that I do love, but my son's nose did not.
My kiddo hasn't had an allergy problem since he was little, and even then the pediatrician labeled them 'winter allergies' and they didn't stick around long. But when I started my perfume collection, they flared back up and I took him to the doctor and then the allergy doctor (referral) who told me to get him on an OTC pill (and if it didn't help we'd have a discussion about shots). I was racking my brain trying to figure out what the difference was...what might be triggering him, and then I realized with HORROR that it was my perfume (if you knew how much I love this new hobby, you'd have felt my pain) but, family first. Easy decision (after the first few seconds of being frozen in 'realization terror'). I got rid of the strong ones I loved, took the perfumed body washes out of the shower (they were strong too) and have kept only the mild fragrances around that still smell so good. Guess what? The allergies cleared up instantly. So, to those of you I have loved but you are too strong for my son, sayonara, it's been real. Thank you for the good times, but we just can't be together anymore.
Here to Stay (hurrah!)
It's all good though. There are so many fragrances to try, and so many I can keep around, the softer, more subtle ones that are not in your face. And that's fine by me. I'm not adverse to tweaking my habit. Samples though, have become important more than ever to me now. I try before I buy, and now it'll be for a few wears. If I hear one sniffle, it'll be out of here (though I've been doing a great job of being able to detect what won't ill affect him by just reading the notes). And even if I think I love or hate it after one spray, I'll still be trying it a few different times just to make sure. You just can't tell the fist time you try it, and you CERTAINLY cannot tell by spraying it on a paper strip alone. And with that being said, I won't even fill you in on me thinking I was so clever (yet again) and spraying 8 or 9 (not kidding) strips at a time to bring home and test/catalog. I am laughing just thinking about it.
I'm still enjoying my hobby, it's just shifting for me in ways I didn't expect, and that I don't mind. The good news is, I can languish in my new sample purchases now and be happy to make a careful decision on where I will or won't be spending my money when it comes time to buy full-sized bottles. Yes, the honeymoon phase is over and I can get a shipment of samples in the mail and not want to try all of them on the same day (previously, I would sit around searching for places I hadn't sprayed on my skin, just so I could try them all as quickly as possible). I can now be happy that they have arrived and enjoy the longer amounts of time it takes to experiment with them, one-at-a-time.
That being said, I do have my memories of 'the good old days' where I was frantically trying to smell every perfume ever made in the quickest amount of time possible (not really, but you get the idea). I couldn't pass a place that sold perfume without wanting to go in and see what they had to test. And oh! to the Palm Beach mall that had soooooo many good stores!! There was one time I did spray at least ten testers, and I was very careful not to let them touch one another. I got home, was unloading the car and a neighbor said, 'can you please tell me what you are wearing? That is the most delightful smell I have ever smelled in my life." I told him it was a concoction of about ten different testers on paper and he laughed and said I should wear that every day!! Indeed, I should not... can you imagine the amount of Kleenex I'd have to invest in for my son???