Monday, June 15, 2020

10 Things I Remember that My Kids Will Never Do


It's nice to reflect back on your childhood, visit places that meant a lot to you (like the park where you had family picnics), see old friends, and remember things you used to do, like jumping off of the shed in your friend's back yard for fun (um, why did we do that?). I recently spent a little over 7 weeks at my mom's place, trying to nurse her through an illness so we could bring her back home to live with us (different states). That did not work out the way I planned, my mom lost her battle with her newly diagnosed Cholangiocarcinoma (bile duct cancer) very quickly (too quickly), but she did have a couple of good weeks where we spent time reminiscing, going through some things together and visiting old haunts (though that was difficult for her sometimes too). Now that I'm home and reflecting on that time (the sadness and missing her comes in waves), I was thinking well, there are some things I did, that I really enjoyed, that my kids will never do. Does that make my time or their time better? Neither. It just makes them different, and that's okay because it makes those memories special now, just to me. I will admit, it was very cool though, to swing in the same park with my youngest (and I have with all of his siblings as well), that I did with my mom. Those kinds of feelings/memories are priceless, as they should be.



So, as bloggers sometimes do, I made a list. There are many more I could add, but I'll keep it short. Here are 10 things I thought of that I liked to do, that my kids will never get to do.

1. Wait for the passing train to get to the end so I can wave at the man in the caboose (man, it was cool that he would wave back).

2. Run to the track after the train had passed to pick up the quarter that would now be flat (we always flattened quarters, what a total waste of money).

3. Fill up a bag of candy at the drugstore for a dollar. Literally, you could fill up a little brown paper bag for a dollar. I would spend a good amount of time making just the right decisions too, and start eating as soon as I got out of the store...usually a powder lollipop or a big Sweet Tart...sometimes a Now and Later (so bad for your teeth!). Or if I felt like getting a Marathon Candy bar that day, and those were my absolute favorite (a long braid of caramel covered in chocolate), I would start peeling because the chocolate always came off so much on those wrappers (but as a kid, it was the least of my concerns). I was also careful to get a pack of trading cards too, with a stick of bubble gum in it, to add to my collection. I know there was more than one type that I collected, but at the moment I can only remember trying to get each of those that belonged to the Charlie's Angels collection (the original Charlie's Angels with Farah Fawcett and later Cheryl Ladd).

4. Experience the joy of a huge stereo being delivered to your room, complete with storage for your records (and later CDs). Every woman in my family had a big stereo, including me, and we all had impressive tape, record, and later CD collections. Nothing like the 32,000 songs I have on my current device but it was different... I don't know why. Less disposable, maybe? More tangible? I don't know, but I sure loved each and every stereo I had over the years.

5. Loving the weekly sitcoms that you could literally only watch once a week. Right now there are so many choices available to watch shows 24-7, that there is no anticipation of  getting to see them. Is it better now? Probably. But it was still fun to gather round the tube with your family and watch that one show everyone loved but only came on once a week. For me it was Bionic Woman, for the whole family it was Dallas...and we had to wait a whole season to see who shot JR, as it ended on a cliffhanger that ticked everyone off, and left them eagerly anticipating the show's return.

I would be remiss if I didn't add this to my list of '10 Things...'
6. Almost everything we ate was fresh or made from scratch, served in dishes (some of which I have in my own kitchen to this very day), and set on the table at the same time of night, every night with each member of the family happy to be joining. Then the ladies all joined in to do dishes. Grandma would wash, mom would dry, and I would do whatever they wanted while I happily buzzed around them chit-chatting (or sitting on the tall step stool I loved, if I was getting in the way, which wasn't something they told me I was doing, but I figured out years later). Of course, even for my generation, this happened primarily at my grandparent's place. Mom was more of a 'God helps them who helps themselves' kind of cook. She'd make it and you had to go serve yourself from the pans. Less dishes, I suppose, but the other way was nicer. Grandma wore an apron too, usually a half-apron. She had a drawer designated just for them, and she folded them just so to put them away after they were washed. Everyone appreciated those meals, including mom. For many years, we lived close enough that we'd walk from our place, to my grandparents for many of our meals. Not because we had to (though maybe that too, now I think about it) but because it was nice to do so, and everyone enjoyed it.

7. Stretching a phone cord way too far to take into an area (my room, for me and in my best friend's kitchen pantry when we were at her place) where you could get some privacy for your 'oh so important' conversations. And while we're at it, asking the operator to cut in on a friend's conversation because the line was ringing busy way too long, and you really 'needed' to get through to talk to them too. No wonder my mom put time limits on my phone use (how long I could talk, and the latest time a call could be made). I remember being so irked at her unreasonable limitations. How funny to look back on that now, and know I'd have done the same.

8. While we're talking phones, I'll mention pay phones. If you had car trouble, or needed to call someone while you were outside, you'd walk up to a pay phone, drop a quarter in (I think it was a dime when I was really young) and be connected for x amount of time to your party. If you went too long you had to add more money or your call would be disconnected. If you didn't have coins, you could call collect. Parents always took collect calls, and grouched at you afterwards to remember to carry a coin.

9. Playing all day, outside. Or having friends over at will. There were no scheduled 'play dates.' Kids got up, went outside and made their own play dates. I remember visiting elderly people in their homes, regularly (and they were glad to have ya), being in my friends' homes, and my friends being at my place. If you were staying inside too long, you asked permission to use their house phone to let your parents know where you were (it was hard to tell when it was getting dark if you were inside, so you'd better make that call so you didn't get into a world of trouble being late...and 'late' meant when it was about to get dark). You'd tell the parent in the home what time you had to leave, and they'd remind you when it was time to go. Sometimes your mom would come over and visit your friend's mom and that would be awesome because it meant extra play time.

10. Walk in without the other members of your family knowing you were coming over. It didn't matter if we were coming from our place to gram's when I was a kid, or from out of state when I was grown. It didn't matter if I was showing up at home, or at my grandma's, with or without their knowledge, I just walked in. I remember surprising my family once at Christmas time. I loaded all of the gifts and the kids into the car and drove 1200 miles so we could have Christmas with the family. We snuck up to the door, me in front and the kids right behind, opened the door and walked right in. I still remember everyone being so happy we were there. My mom jumped up to come to us and my grandma started crying. It's certainly not like that anymore. I have to make an appointment to go see my grown kids (everyone is always so busy, myself included). And of course you can't leave your doors open like that anymore. It sure was nice that we could do that then. Yes, it sure was nice.



I know this generation will have different memories they cherish. That's just how that goes, and thank goodness for it. Each generation deserves their own 'things.' These are just some of mine, from my childhood era. And of course with someone passing as important to the family as my mom, nostalgia is bound to creep in. That's okay too. I welcome it from time to time, as my regular visitors know. :)

If you have any childhood memories to share, please drop 'em below. Memory Lane is a nice place to go every now and again.

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  1. I remember all these. As the oldest it was my job to turn on the television if we were going to watch Car 54 or some other show. It would take five minutes to warm up. When the television was done for the day there would be a test pattern. No all night television. Early on all the shows were in black and white. It was a simpler time.

    Have a fabulous day and week, my friend. ♥

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    1. I remember TV going off at night. I'd stick a towel along the door bottom (so my mom wouldn't see the light from the TV) and use the fuzzy lights of the TV to sneak and read after everyone had gone to sleep.

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  2. I have been thinking about you! What a precious list of memories! My own are similar to yours, but I am older and technology being what it was then didn't give us all that.

    This made my day. thanks!

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    1. You were sweet to be a rock for me, and I appreciated you praying for us. God took care of everything just right, like he always does. Thank you, Susan!

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  3. Oh the memories.
    We headed out after breakfast on our bikes. We were expected hom before dark. And the trouble we were in if we were later...
    I can remember brushing my hair before answering a call from a boyfriend - years before video phones were even a remote possibility.

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    1. That's funny about brushing your hair. We girls were so silly when it came to boys (and vice versa, I'm sure). :)

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  4. The payphone is something I remember from when I was a kid. It is pretty sad that they won't experience some of the things we did growing up.

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    1. I got excited when I saw that one at a rest stop. I don't even remember what state it was in now. :)

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  5. Oh how times have changed! So crazy to think how technology and transportation evolve so quickly.

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    1. Things really do evolve so very fast!! It's amazing when you sit back and reflect on it.

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  6. I found a still working payphone in our town and I couldn't wait to show the kids! haha

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    1. We saw the old wooden ones with the horn dial at a museum and my son said, 'what's this?' lol He had no clue it was a phone. :)

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  7. Very sorry about your mother. Prayers with you and your family.
    Yes, the phone cord that got stretched and twisted. I remember the ten cent phone booths. Only local though - over a dollar if it was long distance. And I had a huge record collection, now a huge CD collection. Most of what I buy is mp3, but certain albums I want the actual disc and booklet.

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    1. Thank you, Alex. Much appreciated.
      I buy the CD sometimes too, but not very often any more. I was worried to convert my CDs to digital. Even with a backup, it's so easy to lose so much!! If they both fail, I am without a lot of music. In fact, now that I've said it, maybe I'll back them up in a 3rd place, lol (not kidding).

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  8. This brings back so many wonderful memories from my childhood.

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    1. Happy memories from my childhood touch a good place that is nice to visit every so often. :)

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  9. You brought back so many childhood memories for me. The big stereo was definitely something I remember like it was yesterday.

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    1. I can't imagine trying to fit that into my decor today, but it was sure great way back when!! :)

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  10. Oh my gosh, I love this! I remember stretching the phone cord and talking on the phone in the backyard with the slider mostly closed. I remember stocking up on candy at Sav-On too and getting a LOT of candy for $1.00. Thanks for sharing these.

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    1. Phone calls are so important when we're tweens/teens. My mom used to ask me what on Earth I could be possibly talking about for so long with someone I had just spent the whole day with at school.

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  11. This post certainly brought back so many memories. I agree that it doesn't mean that 'our time' as children was better than the kids of today, just different. It really is amazing though to think of all the changes that have occurred over the past 20, 30 or so years and how fast things have changed. It almost seems as if we were brought up in a different world - and I guess in many cases, we have!

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    1. It is like a different world, or a book with chapters. Each one bringing something very different. It's unreal how fast it all goes too.

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  12. I just sent you a note - our posts are similar.
    YOU WILL NEVER EVER BE SORRY or look back with regret.
    You did the right thing going to be with your mother.
    I am sorry you lost her. It is so hard. :(
    So you are back home.
    I am GLAD you have all those memories to go and look back on!
    Love, sandie

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    1. Thank you, Sandie. I appreciate it. And yes, I am so glad I went. It was a blessing for her and for me. Just an absolute gift.

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  13. Wow,this reminds me of my childhood memories!! Lol it's making me feel old as I have a little toddler

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    1. I have toddler grandkids!! Wrapping my head around that still... but loving it. :)

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  14. Haha I share the same thought with you. I still remember the candies and activities playing with the kids in my neighborhood. My kids would never know about that

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    1. We don't even let the kids have much candy today, much less get a bag of it at the store, lolol

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  15. Rewind tapes with the help of a pencil, did you ever do that? :D

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    1. Of course! And tape on the top of them to record my favorite top 40 hits on the Saturday morning countdown. ;)

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  16. What a beautiful post, reminded me of my childhood and when I was growing up especially stretching a phone cord, and twisting it when my parents were walking up and down trying to distract me lol

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    1. My mom used to HATE when I'd twist the phone cord. "Stop twisting the cord, Rosey!" lol I can hear her saying it.

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  17. i think we were growing up in much more free times that our kids are - these were the days ! best childhood ever Kind regards Pati Robins at style -squeeze blog

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    1. Definitely a different time. I suppose each generation feels the same. :)

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  18. Aww what a nice nostalgic post. This definitely brought back some memories, although some of these were before even my time. Those really were simpler days.

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  19. Aaawww....this one ( Run to the track after the train had passed to pick up the quarter that would now be flat (we always flattened quarters, what a total waste of money)) is a new one to me. It must have been fun.

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    1. It was something we loved to do, lol. Children are very easily amused. ;)

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  20. This brings back to my childhood and I miss it.

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    1. Nostalgia visits make me happy every now and again. :)

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  21. I love your list, It really takes me back. I especially liked Run to the track after the train had passed to pick up the quarter that would now be flat. I use to do this all the time as a kid. I still have some of these quaters.

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  22. Yes, there are a lot of things that our kids won't do. I even forgot some of them. It was pleasant to remember them.

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    1. There are a ton of things, for sure. They'll probably think of lists like like this when they're grown, full of their own things. :)

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  23. Your post has brought up so many fond memories where I use to make phone call back to my parents from a telephone booth, I still remember it was cold winter and I was alone making a call back. This will never happen again.

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    1. Oh yeah, people could ring into a pay phone too, saving you the coin. I forgot about that!!

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  24. I remember the days of playing outside all day and then listening to my CDs when I got home!

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    1. Right, the music went on the second we hit the door!

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  25. This made me nostalgic. We played a lot outside with our neighbors back in the day. No gadgets at all. My son would never know cassette tapes too. LOL. -LYNNDEE

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    1. Playing outside and making up our own agendas, with no gadgets at all, was the best! I feel like technology is amazing, but it is also a thief of time and experiences.

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  26. I remember growing up seeing payphones. Now, they're one in a million and usually vandalised!

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    1. Yes, they are usually vandalized. I was surprised to see this one intact at a rest stop. I don't remember where it was... I think North Carolina?

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  27. Oh my goodness yes!! This list brought back so many memories for me...I wish I could time travel and show my kids what life was like growing up...I miss those days terribly...they were simpler times.

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    1. It was nice to visit home recently and let my son roam around the places I loved as a kid. I got more of a kick out of it than he did, but he enjoyed it too. We have done that every time we've gone to visit, lol. I can't help myself.

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  28. What a great list of memories! I do miss the tv culture back in those days. We don't really even watch tv much anymore. And we still make meals from scratch now. In fact, more so than back then, when we could eat frozen meals without worry about the ingredients in them.

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    1. I wish I made more things from scratch than I do. In fact, the main ingredients for the smoothies I am making this week are coming from a prepackaged bag of frozen fruit. I like the convenience of someone else doing the work chopping/cutting far more than is for my own good, and I know it.

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  29. It is so crazy how quickly generations are changing. It seems to be happening faster and faster.

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    1. Truth! Kids seem so grown up so fast today.

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  30. I laughed so hard seeing the phone! I don't think my kids would know what it was if I showed them!

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    1. Maybe our grandchildren won't know what a cellphone is (crazy to think of, for sure).

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  31. those are some fun memories for both my folks and me. i remember corded phones and trying to get as far away from mom's ear hahaha.

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    1. I don't even remember what one of those 'so important' phone calls was about, lol

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  32. I cannot believe how much times have changed over the years. My kids are always shocked to hear about what life was like when I was young.

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    1. My kids think I'm outdated. They might be right, but I'm okay with that... ;)

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  33. What a great post. It is very important to keep those loved memories because they are not comming back.

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  34. It brings back a lot of memories. I hope this generation will learn lessons from their memories and experiences! Hope they can pass it in the next one.

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    1. I do wish this generation would listen more to the older one than they seem to, but I distinctly remember my generation didn't listen much either. We knew everything already. ;) Or so we thought... :)

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  35. I'm so sorry that your mom lost her battle with cancer so quickly. I really enjoyed reading your list because so many of those are my memories too! Stretching out the phone cord usually got a "don't stretch the phone cord so far" from my dad. Being able to walk to the little store and get that cheap candy was the best. I loved the big sweet tarts too! I think those were a dime, so if I wanted a lot of stuff I would get the Now & Laters, fireballs, bit'o honey & bazooka! Did you get the teen magazines? I think I started buying those around 4th grade because I was in love with Shawn Cassidy! Thanks for sharing these!

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    1. Thank you, Christy. I'm sorry she did too! And yes to the candy. All of those, but fireballs were my least favorite (I liked the mini Red Hots better). I liked jawbreakers better. I'd bite right into them without a care in the world to my teeth (yeeikes). I remember liking Lemon Heads, Boston Baked Beans and Chic O Sticks too... Pixie Sticks were okay but the paper was a problem. They were better when they got in the plastic tubes. Funny thing though, if I try most of these things today, I don't like any of them!! Lemon Heads being the exception. ;)

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    2. I still like Lemon Heads too! I know. I can't believe my teeth survived all of that! I did love Pixie Sticks for the sheer volume you could get for cheap lol. I really craved Sweet Tarts & Spree when I was pregnant with Kyle! I don't think Spree were in packs like they are now...just in the machines & only grandma would give me money for that lol.

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    3. Oh yeah, I forgot they used to put unwrapped Spree in machines.

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  36. Oh, Rosey! I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your mom! You have both been on my mind a lot lately, so my heart is very heavy for you now :(

    I miss all of those things too. Well, maybe not the payphone so much as I never had change. But the penny candy, playing outside all day with your friends, showing up at the elderly homes and they were always so happy to see you and give you peanut butter and crackers to snack on... Good times!

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    1. Thank you, Theresa. It went fast, all things considered. And since she wasn't going to get better and was in pain, so I know for her sake, that was a good thing. Yesterday I wanted to call her for something and I instantly remembered I could not. That wasn't great. :( I know it will get better and I'm just so happy we had the time with her that we did.

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  37. This post makes me so nostalgic. We do wave at the train conductor as it passes us on the beach. I don't let her put coins on the track though.

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    1. I haven't waved at a conductor. Perhaps now I will be sure to do so. :)

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  38. What a great nostalgic list! I used to love having CDs delivered in the mail! It gave me something to look forward to! I miss those days!

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    1. I forgot about those, we did that too. Picking out the 11 discs to join (or something like that) was the very best part!

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  39. I can come up with a large list of things that my kids will never do but, the only thing that I know is that they would learn my volumes and that's very important.

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    1. What we pass along to our children is very important. :)

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  40. Babushka remembers everything on your list, most of them fondly. Two favorites have to be the food from scratch and definitely the weekly sitcoms. Friday night pizza night watchin Bill Nye and then The Nanny with The Trio, great memorias.

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    1. You were lucky to get pizza on Fridays. We got it every once in a great while. I made up for lost time though, when I grew up. ;)

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  41. 7, 9, and 10! Ahh the good old days. And even having to wait for the next episode of the sitcoms vs now with everything available 24/7. That definitely stirred more excitement while teaching patience.

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    1. Right, we don't get to excited by anticipation since everything is so instant these days. :)

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  42. Technology has moved so fast that along with the benefits it also has brought many headaches for parents.In our days control was much easier as we only had books as a child which was always visible. Nice to know about the newer challenges vis=a-vis the ones we faced when our children were growing.

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    1. It'll be interesting to see what this kind of list looks like for our kids in 20 years. :)

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  43. Aw I love this, it has made me smile for sure and also brought back many happy childhood memories for me too thank you xx

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    1. It's fun to reminisce sometimes. A visit back to my home state had me going. :)

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  44. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It is a very difficult time to go through.

    Most of those things that you did in the past I can relate to. Though the bag of cany was probably more like 50 cents or less for me.

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    1. Thank you. I miss my mommy. :( I am very grateful to have had her for 73 years.

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  45. And you could slam the phone down too. Can't do that with a cellphone lol doesn't have the same uumph.

    Yeah, we could go to others houses and pick up friends from school and such, but now if you want to take another's kid home from school you practically have to have a cavity search and documentation signed by God lol so much easier to just open the door and hop in.

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    1. Oh yeah! Phone slamming. How could I forget that one? That's how your bff (that you were going to talk to in 30 seconds) knew that you were 'never talking to her again.' lol

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  46. Yes to 4, 5, and 7!

    My older sister was always on the phone. I remember my younger sister wanted to go play with a friend. The older one wouldn't get off! The younger one just grabbed a scissors, and cut the cord. There went that conversation. The younger one still couldn't call a friend to go play.

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    1. Oh boy, I bet your parents weren't overly thrilled. My mom would have FLIPPED if I'd have cut the phone cord, lol!!!

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  47. Very beautiful blog .I loved it and brought my memories . There are many things I think that my 3 year old cant do . I think I should also make a list . Thanks for sharing and stay safe . Much love

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  48. Ha ha ha
    My mom and I were just talking about our family reunions the other day.. We would go to a state park and have a pavilion... we would eat and hang out and then the kids would go explore the whole area for the day... you can't do that now for fear of someone taking your kids... but we were young and would be off exploring the woods for hours and hours...

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