Friday, March 9, 2018

How To Help Your Struggling Teen

I received this article and thought it was worth posting.

When we have kids, we envision their lives being happy and worry-free. Sadly, reality doesn't always look like our plans. Even the best parents can find themselves with teenaged children who are unhappy and struggling at home and at school. If you have a teenage child who's struggling, here's some advice on how you can help them to get back on track.

Identify The Problem

While it's true that a lot of teenagers have issues, different teens struggle with different things. Some teenagers may not necessarily be dealing with mental illness, but simply managing stress poorly. These kids might not necessarily need professional intervention. However, other teens may be struggling with an actual mental illness. In this case, they may need the help of a North Tampa behavioral health specialist.

Consider Your Actions

If your teen is struggling, it might not necessarily be your "fault," but there might be things you're doing that are worsening the situation. For example, if a child is struggling in school, many parents will yell and lecture in an attempt to force their kids to start making better educational choices. While this sounds like simple tough love, most kids struggling in school just become even more disinterested in their academics when they're yelled at for their poor performance. Instead, you want your struggling teen to see you as an ally, not an enemy.

Communication Is Key

Teens don't typically like to have long and personal conversations with their parents. This is an age where many kids feel inclined to hide things from their parents, not share their innermost thoughts with them. Even if it's difficult to get your child to open up to you, you should always be communicating with your teen. When kids feel like they can talk to their parents without the fear of being judged or yelled at, they're generally a lot happier and more confident at school.

Raising a teenager is difficult. However, you're not a bad parent just because your teen is struggling. Identify the problem, resist the urge to yell and show your teen that you're on their side.


  1. I am the parent of a een and a 12 year old and luckily they are doing well in school but I consider myself lucky because we don't work at it. I think communication is the key and the yelling and screaming does not help.

  2. These are very important pointers for parents especially parents of teens who are going through tough times in their lives. I agree that communication is essential.

  3. I have survived this phase of raising teenagers. Whew. That was one tough chapter in parenting. I found out that communication is the best way to reach out to teens. I also make it a point to give them their own time and space. I reassured them that I am willing to listen when they are ready to talk.

  4. Parenting teens is hard! My two are completely opposite personality wise, but I find even with that, they both come with a unique set of challenges. I just pray I can make it a few more years without losing my sanity lol

  5. I'm right on the cusp on those teenaged years. I remember how challenging those years were for me, so I want to be there for my daughters as much as possible. Communication with you teen, as with any relationship, sounds critical.

  6. Communication without yelling and resisting the urge to pass judgement sure is key.

  7. And everything is so overwhelming when you're a teenager. Everything is so important and you find out later how unimportant things really were. I remember that and I'm old now.

    Have a fabulous weekend. ♥

  8. I am fortunate to have two well rounded kids. My son is 16 and he does great except for school work. But it is great to be there for them no matter what. I try not to judge him and expect him to be like his older sister who did great in school

  9. Being a teen is such an awkward and frustrating age. I think the number one thing most teen needs is open communication and less judgement so they will feel free to talk.


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