Friday, May 9, 2014

That was Then, This is Now (not an SE Hinton review ;) )

I'm from the generation where summers meant you left the house at the first sign of daylight, and didn't come home until you heard your mom calling. One of my good friends is from the same generation, and we were laughing yesterday about all of the places we used to go. One of those places we had in common it seems, is to our elderly neighbors' homes. I'm talking people our families did, or did not know.  


I have no idea how I ended up in some of the places I did, or met some of the people I did, but spending hours with an elderly neighbor, being fed lunch, hearing their stories, or them hearing mine (goodness they must have been patient) was not at all uncommon. Today, we have nice neighbors, but my children don't even know most of their names.  They're certainly not allowed to roam around visiting, especially not inside of people's houses.  Of course that's a good thing, considering the danger factor.  But my friend and I both agreed we had some pretty great visits, so I can't help but wonder if the kiddos are missing out, and maybe the neighbors are missing out a bit too. 

38 comments:

  1. Yeah, my brother and I used to take off on our bikes and ride all over town. We'd return by dinner. Can't do that now.

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  2. We had limits on how far we could go, but the older we got the larger our territory. I don't recall ever being fed by any of my elderly neighbors, but I do remember just sitting out on their front porch swing talking to them. Yeah, I doubt that happens much any longer. And we probably aren't the better for it.

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  3. I am from that same era.. my sisters and I had so many fun days roaming the city. Those were good days... today we are more aware of the dangers... which is good but leaves our children lacking the chance to have those great memories ;-)

    Have a great weekend Rosie ♡

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  4. Hi Rosey, yes unfortunately it is a different time than years ago and kids don't have time to do visit. I remember when we were little too and stayed out playing all day long and came home at suppertime. Those were the days! Wishing you a wonderful Mother's Day and a nice weekend.
    Julie

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  5. I would love to be ridingmy bike and getting lost, but always finding my way back, sometimes when you are lost, you see some amazing things

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  6. I know what you mean. I too had a couple of elderly neighbors that I would often visit. They'd fill me with cookies, cake, pie or ice cream. They'd listen to me chatter about my friends and I'd listen to them talk about days-gone-by, their grown-up children and places they had traveled. I learned some things and now that I'm so very much older, I realize that they appreciated the company. :)

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  7. Yep, my sisters and I would be all over the neighbourhood and Mom would come after us with a cane when we were still not back by dinner time!
    Happy Mother's Day, sweetie!

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  8. We would visit our neighbors too - some had grandkids the same age - but not all did.... i do think my family knew all of them though ;)

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  9. My sister and I would be all over the place when we were growing up. Get your chores done and then you're out and about for the rest of the day. It was a great time. None of us were overweight, we were very active and happy. Those were some great times.

    Have a fabulous day and weekend and thanks for evoking these wonderful memories. :)

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  10. We used to go all over the place, never went to neighbors though as they were too far away, living on a 100 acres can do that haha unless you count the cows.

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  11. I remember riding our bikes and visting the neighbors in our area when I was growing up. We lived in a small town, and everyone was really nice!

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  12. Wow, you just reminded me of Muriel, the neighborhood elderly lady that we all LOVED when I was growing up. She was so awesome. All the kids on our street flocked to her when we were younger.

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  13. I spent my summers bike riding the neighborhoods and riding my horse. Often, my mom would drop me off at the barn at 8 am, and I'd stay until she picked me up at 4. There were tons of other horse-crazy girls there, and we had so much fun.

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  14. We live in a historical district and the old generation feeling is all around us. I love that my children know our neighbors and I feel safe with *most* of them. They do have to have a parent with them though

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  15. Ha! The first thing I thought of was S.E. Hinton! I grew up in the same era and I miss the ability to let the kids experience the freedoms we did as kids.

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  16. Snap. We did too. And had relationships with people all over the neighbourhood. And, given that 'stranger danger' is much smaller than danger from the people we know, I mourn the passing of those times.

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  17. It's funny how things change over the years. Loved your post.

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  18. We must be close to the same generation. Those old ladies would feed us lunch, cookies and milk. Then they would tell use endless stories about their lives. I should have a porch outside and get to know those parents.

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  19. I love this post. Yes, things have changed so much, I had a neighbor growing up that told me some of the most wonderful things about her life and about when she was growing up, I miss her.

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  20. Things are SO different for me too. Granted my kids are growing up in an urban area and my husband and I grew up in suburbs. I remember running through all the neighbors backyards - and being in and out of many different households. I love your story!

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  21. The times have changed so much it is almost sad. Thanks for sharing.

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  22. As a second grader, I used to walk down the street to my friends house by myself and my mom didn't worry about me - until I cut my foot in a swamp and needed six stitches. But now? I don't let my kids do that..Ryan is in 4th grade and he has a friend about the same distance down the road...I admit, it has never come up, but I wouldn't allow him to just walk down our busy road. I would drive him.....even though it is close. Good? Bad? It's just the way it is.

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  23. Add me to the list! My grandma lived in a retirement kind of village mobile home park. Whenever I visited her (which pretty much was every weekend) I would spend a little time running errands for her. I would bring plums from her trees to her friend Chris who would always give me a treat (occasionally that treat was steamed cauliflower, go figure). Chris also loved to paint and let me use her oils to paint pictures for my gram. My grandmother always shared fresh tomatoes with her friend Ethel and when I brought them over, she would tell me stories of her life in Boston while clipping flowers from her garden for my gram. There were many others. It was a pretty awesome thing. I do wish times weren't so different now, because I feel like lots of us are missing out. I also remember how even at home, my friend Jen and I would ride our horses all over town (small town called Norco which is still very horse friendly). We thought nothing of stopping at strangers houses asking for a drink of water and usually riding off with a soda. Love that life. :) Thanks for reminding me of it.

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  24. What you're experiencing is pretty common nowadays. We're very fortunate here--- close friends with everyone on our street and have known each other for a long time. I feel very happy and secure here, and my kids luckily were able to roam the neighborhood unharmed.

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  25. We have to force my daughter to go outside some days. It is funny how things have changed, right? We try to get to know our neighbors but we live in small town Washington. People kind of keep to themselves, don't they? I wish it was a bit more like it was when I was a kid.

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  26. I think every thing changed from when I was a kid. We know everyone in our neighborhood. Now our kids have to be careful even going trick or treating.

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  27. I traveled all around and still do so

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  28. We have all become much more isolated and less social and trusting.

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  29. I used to visit the elderly too. They always gave us snacks, and I loved that! Boy, those were the days. I was just thinking how times were so simple back then. Hop on your bike and be gone for hours. When the streetlights came on, that was curfew lol.

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  30. At this time and this new era...our children is want always to stayed home played tablet or computer games than to go out side...they want to sitting in the front of computer than to played outside...played to other childrens...

    xoxo,
    MY ONLINE WORLD
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  31. OMGosh - we had a lot of elderly neighbors that we always visited. Each had a specialty that they treated us with. Now we lived out in the boonies, but we still made our rounds. One neighbor was from Czechoslovakia and she would make us fresh pastries, and I learned to love all kinds of "wilted" salads. We never left her house hungry. Gosh, I haven't thought about her in years.

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  32. me too!!! and, they used to always give me lot of advise. (a 6 year old doesn't need much of it though)

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  33. We knew all of our neighbors or someone we were with did! Yes, we would leave early in the morning and either be back for dinner or phone home to say so and so's Mom's invited us to dinner-could we stay? Much better time to grow up!

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  34. I too used to be gone outside playing all day long when I was a kid. We were fortunate enough to live near many family members, so I could walk down to Gramma's or other neighbor's houses. My dad also owned a garage so there were always people coming in and out. I do often think our kids are missing out, but the danger is just so more prevalent these days!

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  35. Made me miss the good ol' days of childhood. :)

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  36. It's really sad that we are ALL missing out. I grew up like you did. The village did indeed raise the children. It was fun and very enriching!

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  37. I grew up in a similar neighborhood at a similar time. Right now, my daughter is down the street at a friend's house. They've biked and climbed and made wildflower bouquets (It's mom's day after all) --- and are having a blast. I am thankful to live in a rare neighborhood where the past is the present. :)

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  38. We grew up way out in the country and had no really close neighbors, so we played in the woods a lot. I was such a Tom Boy.

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