Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Please Remove Your Pine


We have good neighbors, no great neighbors. They're nice, they watch out for us, they invite us to their functions, etc. BUT they're entirely responsible for their property, and we're entirely responsible for ours (like it should be). The neighbor on the right takes great care to ride his mower just to the property line, and it's been that way for as long as I can remember.

Now he wants to extend the parking in his driveway by adding a stone space adjacent to his blacktop. It would cross our property line. He said we could use it too, as needed. We have no problem with it, and told him to go ahead. Challenge is, now he wants the at least 40 ft. Pine tree at the end of that space (on our property) to be removed, and he asked if we'd pay half. Um no, we like our huge trees, that one included.  

That conversation ended with the neighbor saying, 'Well, I'll check around and if I get a good deal, let you guys know.'

I suppose he addressed the topic with me because my husband is entirely direct and not inclined to be nice about, 'no.' I did say no, but it was politely, "No, I don't want to have that tree taken down. I don't want any of our trees taken down, I like them all.'

Okay, so mow day.  We mowed the yard, and we don't have the cool grass/leaf holder/dumper on the back of the rider, so if there's remnants, I go rake them to the burn pile.  Like I said, we do our yard, the neighbor does his. It's been that way the whole (7) years we've lived here. Sunday, after we mowed, the neighbor who wants the tree down rode the acres of our yard with his mower, picking up our grass remnants with his cool contraption that makes such things easy.  

I was mooooooooooooortified. I don't want him doing nice things for us, getting his hopes up that we're going to take down that tree (or rather pay half to take down our tree).

Hubby was the opposite. He was cheering...said, "I think we should mow again so he can run across our yard one more time."  -_-

It's silly to be upset, but I know the neighbor has his heart set on us letting him take down that tree (and us paying half, lol). And I know we're not going to do it.  I hate rifts where rifts have never existed, and I suspect he's going to have hard feelings.  *sigh* Hopefully, I'm wrong.

Either way, this too shall pass, but phooey dangit, darnit, phoo!

35 comments:

Jacquelineand.... said...

I'm sorry this is happening Rosey; I hate it when silly things escalate like that...and when it's with a neighbour it's all the more difficult. Fingers crossed that he sees reason!

Janine Huldie said...

Aww, Rosey, I am so sorry you are going through any of this and I know stuff like this can make for uncomfortableness where it never existed before. that said, I truly don't think you are wrong and you even tried to handle it politely and nicely. I am not sure why some people just can't take a simple "No" as an answer. Hope you can solve it though and remain friendly still.

Optimistic Existentialist said...

I can't believe he would expect you to pay half when he's the one wanting your tree down lol. That's insane. It's your tree, on your land, and you should keep the tree there if you damn well please :)

Z @ Kicking Kilos said...

:(( where's my gun???
OK but really?

Masshole Mommy said...

Absolutely not, Rosey. If you were nice enough to agree to letting him take down the tree, HE should be the one paying for it. It was his idea and shame on him for trying to guilt you into paying half of it. Please do not let him get inside your head. Taking trees down is costly and he should never have been ballsy enough to even ask.

Carla said...

Hopefully there are no hard feelings. At our house we have a tree that is about six inches from the property line. When our new neighbors moved in, they wanted to take it down to make it easier to put their RV on that side of the house. My husband said nope, and that was it. They haven't brought it up again, and things are fine. Hopefully something similar happens with yours.

Julie Corbisiero said...

OMG Rosey, what a horrible situation and it's too bad! Wow, I hope this doesn't get out of hand and works out but I feel the same way as you about the tree.

Pat Hatt said...

It's his project and he expects you to pay half? Pfffft that would get more than a heck no from me. Him trying ti kiss arse isn't going to work, but hey it saves you time haha Good luck with that, you may end up starting one of those feuds that go on for generations haha

~ Noelle said...

Oh no- hate that for you...
but lets be real- YOU are being nice giving him some of your property - what happens if you move and the next owners arent so nice? He needs to be thankful you even agreed - - - but as for the tree? either he pays it all - or it stays. bottom line ;) stick to your guns and if you feel weak about it, get hubby on it ;)

Kristi Maloney said...

Give em an inch and they take a mile! Stick to your guns....(reference intended)! nah...I'm sure if your neighbor is reasonable, he will understand your logical position. :)

Hannah @ Thursday's Child said...

Oh I HATE things like this. Dont be made to feel guilty and cave! I'm currently feeling the guilty because I asked our neighbour to control their (large) dog and stop it jumping at the (our) fence, scaring my toddler and causing damage which they'd ultimately be liable for. They got rid of the dog. Hurrah perhaps, but now they have two cats, who my dogs LOVE to bark at allllll daaaaaay looooong!

Sandee said...

You have a rift right now. He wants what he wants and he expects to get what he wants. Let hubby tell him no because he's railroading you. Then the rift starts. Yep, he's the bad guy here just so you know. I knew that when he was messing with your property line that you would never get to share because he would have it all to himself. Sorry, but these kinds of neighbors make me cringe. For him to even suggest messing with your property is WRONG.

Okay, I feel better now. Been there and done this. I hope yours turns out better.

Have a fabulous day. ☺

Jen said...

I wouldn't remove the tree either!

Secondary Roads said...

Aarrrgh! People. I'd want to keep a pine of that size.

Lena said...

Aww, the neighbors... Just stand your grounds. I wouldn't want to have it removed either...

Janeen van Niekerk said...

This is about a tree NOW, in the future? When your car is in his way or his car is constantly on your side? What about the future? will you live there forever? would a new owner want a neighbour on their side of the lawn.
Your property is YOUR property. Friends or not.......

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Not nice that he set you up for a rift. Your property - stick to your guns on that tree.

Melissa Swedoski said...

Ergh! I hate the neighbor confrontations. Things start so pleasantly, sharing stuff, allowing small encroachments. And then, it just spirals. Hope you find an easy way to resolve it!

Susan Kane said...

Move the stone back to his side of the line, and plant a new big tree next to your 40 ft tree. Obnoxious guy.

Cascia Talbert said...

Sorry to hear about this Rosey. I hope your neighbor stops bugging you about your tree. You have the right to refuse to cut it down and there isn't anything he can do about it.

The Mom Jen said...

I'd kindly say, thanks but you don't have to get our grass remnants. Bottom line, you do not have to give in about the tree, he'll have to get over it!

Mistee Dawn said...

It can be tricky navigating a relationship with neighbors. Hope everything works out for ya.

Raijean of Swa-Rai.com said...

It's your yard, you just have to stand your ground.

Elephant's Child said...

My optimistic self is hoping that him picking up the grass was a sign that he realised just how important the tree is to you. Yes, I know, rose-coloured glasses.
I do hope he soon realises that trees are much more important than parking.

Launna said...

Don't worry Rosey... it is your tree so keep it, he definitely shouldn't expect you to remove it and most certainly you should not pay for it..

I have no problem saying no... I'll say it for you, lol :)

Thank you for the lovely comment :)

Justin Knight said...

Oh, neighbor situations can be so tricky. It could be worse though: we have neighbors who run a used car lot from the front of their house on one side and a felon who is due to be arraigned on the other. Ugh!

Holy Ghost Writer said...

A slippery slope. I wouldn't have even agreed

Theresa Mahoney said...

It drives my husband nuts, but I refuse to get chummy with our neighbors for this exact reason. My husband thinks it never hurts to be friendly with the neighbors. I am friends with one, but have had my fair share of rolling my eyes at her from time to time. My husband is the nice one and gets sucked into grabbing mail, taking out trash when the neighbors are away, feeding pets. I have enough to worry about on my own. I don't want to get sucked into doing for the neighbors all the time too. Yep, it sounds bad, but I am one who believe that good fences make good neighbors.

Binky said...

Sometimes those issues can get touchy. I hope it gets resolved in a way that keeps you both happy and good neighbors.

Brian Miller said...

ugh i am not envisioning this ending pretty at all...just saying...and i hate that for you...

Debi Gerhart said...

I hate tension and conflict so I would have been uneasy with him doing my yard too.

Maddi'sMommy said...

It can be hard to have conflict of any kind with our neighbors.

Mel@Mellywood's Mansion said...

Oh no, that's tough. Neighbours can turn quickly I hope you settle it soon. I'd be in hubby's camp though and enjoying my lawn lol

Colette S said...

Oh no! You can see it coming right.
I really do not like riffs either. Especially with neighbors!

I'd keep firm on my no. As they say, once you give an inch, they'll take a yard.

Let's pray on it okay. *HUGS*

(Terry) My Journey With Candida said...

Oh man.... not good Rosey. No way would I let him put his drive on my property and for sure he wouldn't be cutting my trees.