Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Eureka! (not the vacuum)


Hubby and I have reached that point...
You know, the point of, 'let's not bother with that holiday this year, there are too many holidays on the calendar anyway.'

Ay yi yi!

Last night I casually mentioned to my husband that everything is all about Valentine's Day already.  No big deal. I just said it in passing while looking at the Internet.

He looked at me and said, 'Let's just skip it this year, maybe just go to dinner or something.'

Sounds good to me!  In fact, I'd rather just skip dinner too because the wait at the restaurants will be awful on such a day.


And then it hit me, we're that couple.
Is the romance gone? No.
Is the excitement of gift giving gone? Nuh uh.
Are we getting too old to care about such things.  Probably, yes. :)

The things that seemed fun, important, and a priority years ago, really don't mean a thing anymore (other things that seem fun, important, and/or a priority have taken their place).


I'll pick up little boxes of chocolate hearts for the kids, and the requisite Valentine's Day cards for the elementary-aged little to pass out in his classroom.  And that will be that, and I'm glad about it too. :)

How about you? Do you look forward to Valentine's Day? Or are you a take it or leave it (the holiday) kind of gal or guy?

55 comments:

  1. Rosey, I try real hard with Valentine's Day, because 15 years ago my grandfather died on this day. So, to be honest for a long time it was just another day for me and wanted it to be over before it started. Then, I met Kevin and yes he won me over to be a bit romantic with it, but now being married for a few years and two little kids, it has become more challenging with the day itself. So, yes do know what you mean here and he actually asked me if we were celebrating this year, too. So, I guess we will see on this end and not sure either if we will or not now.

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  2. We'll probably just go to dinner and call it even for V-day too :)

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  3. It has always been one of those days that are not a big deal to me. My husband's birthday is right near that day and we combine holiday and birthday into one celebration. Fair enough... our anniversary and my birthday are a day apart and we celebrate those as one also. :)

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  4. Nope, this year we've decided to have a Spring Fling. That will consist of dinner and buying garden seeds sometime in March, lol.

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  5. Chris and I don't do anything other than birthdays. We got each other new iPhones in early December and counted that as our gifts to each other. I'd rather get for the kids anyways.

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  6. It also happens to be my birthday and my husband used to get me a Valentines Day present and a birthday present back when we were dating but after I while I figured that there is no point to make him be romantic just because the calendar says he is supposed to be because as wonderful a man as he is, he is not romantic. We don't do any holidays for each other anymore and now it is all about our son :)

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  7. We usually buy each other cards and of course get stuff for the kids. It's kind of a low-key holiday here, at least when it comes to my husband and me.

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  8. Rosey
    I always thought of Valentines Day as a special holiday but now I have no one special person to share it with....... so I just send cards and cash to my mentally challenged people that I love to sponsor. I do the same on every holiday for them and I know how much they appreciate a little extra cash to spend.

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  9. we cant wait for a day to make a difference in our relationship you know...make every day one that you cherish your love and invest in it...

    i might paint my wife a picture this year....hmmm....

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  10. We don't give gifts like we used to do. We usually pick out something that both of us are interested in and get it. I can't see just buying a gift that we really don't need because it is Christmas, Valentines etc...

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  11. I just want a card from him and a homemade card from my son...that is all. We can (all three of us) go out to dinner together...really just another day...it's how he treats me all year tha tmatters.

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  12. Always thought it was a commercialized cash grab anyway, one day to make everything better, oh so magical, pffft riiiiight!

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  13. valentines for me is not any other holiday..it is for him & me♥ i hope he's got something planned out..if not, idk what i'm gonna do...cry maybe :( haha

    really, the thing that matters is that everyday he treats you special rosey☺

    huggies♥
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  14. Here's an idea. Hubby and I are in our 60s and we have date nights, but don't celebrate all the holidays. Take a guess at what you would spend for a dinner or night out and put that money away for something special. A long weekend at a really nice place. That's what we do. It's more fun too. It's also amazing at how much you've saved for this special event when you add up all those holidays throughout the year.

    Have a fabulous day. ☺

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  15. This is so interesting. I think guys (like my husband) hate the commercialization of this holiday - like he doesn't think he has to jump to get me anything for this holiday, when he shows his love all year through....I don't know, I was into Valentine's Day, but now more like you. If we go out to eat it is around Valentines Day, not ON Valentine's day. We are about to purchase a new car soon. We talked about doing it on or around Valentine's Day. Not sure what that means - just more of a coincidence - so I guess we will just consider it our Valentine's gift to each other. (We are both off the hook.) Take that Hallmark! lol

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  16. I was only married three years and I don't remember V-Day being that big of a deal then. Aside from those three years, I never seem to have a Significant Other when that day rolls around. I am now to the point that Feb 14 is just another day. I would rather have some romance all year long;)

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  17. My husband and I have been together for over 18 years so we don't make a huge deal about Valentine's Day any more. We always have a nice home cooked meal with a special dessert. I do make special cards and get our kids something small though.

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  18. We don't make a big deal about it as a couple either. We get each other a card and gifts for the kids. God bless! :)

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  19. My birthday is Feb 12, so that and Valentine's Day kind of get lumped together. We don't normally do anything out of the ordinary. I cook a good meal and we relax in front of the tv together. Same thing we do most every night haha :)

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  20. We used to go all out on Valentines, but now we go on a family date and it's lovely.

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  21. We haven't celebrated Valentine's Day in years. Probably after the first few years together we stopped. We do pick up a small box of chocolates for the girls, and we do decorate, but as for us celebrating together? No. I much prefer the spontaneous acts of love throughout the year. Saturday my husband came home with a box of Girl Scout Cookies just for me, because he knows that I love those Thanks A Lot cookies they sell. I'll take that over a forced holiday gift any day!

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  22. We always do something a little gift and perhaps a movie on the sofa but we don't go to big lengths like some do and that's the way we like it :) x

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  23. Well, we spent our dating Valentine's Days out doing huge fabulous things...but what we've done since we've been married is: I grab a nice ready-made steak dinner on the way home from work. We use the fine china and candles and music while we eat, and then we watch our wedding video, and then, well, whatever else we feel like LOL

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  24. My husband likes to say everyday should be valentines day when you're in love :) I think he says that to take the pressure off of that one big couples day. But it's true everyday we are in love and we don't have to spend a lot or go overboard to show it. Have a great week

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  25. i wll be packing for Disney on V-day as we have a weekend planned at that time

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  26. We've been married for almost 45 years, but we still celebrate Valentine's Day. Not a real big deal, but cards, a small gift, and the day spent out and about followed by a nice candlelight dinner.

    My hubby is more on the side of celebrating specific dates than I am. I'd much rather do something special on an "any day" day, rather than simply because the calendar dictates it.

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  27. Valentines day is different here, it's usually for young couples and newlyweds I dont know anyone who celebrates it as a big thing, maybe because it's in Feb, stinking hot and the last thing you want to do is snuggle LOL

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  28. That's sad. You need to go celebrate.

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  29. Can't say we celebrate it much either

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  30. I usually just celebrate with my parents and siblings but this year I want to enjoy it and maybe head out to dinner with my boyfriend and experience it as a young couple. You should definitely celebrate. It only comes once a year! :)

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  31. I was very scared to see Easter eggs and hot cross buns in the shops here just after Christmas. I haven't see Valentines Day propaganda yet, but I am sure it is there.
    It will be low key here, we try and celebrate love all year round.

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  32. You can't miss Chocolate Day!

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  33. I'm such a hypocrite really - I could care less - just like to torment him if he forgets LOL -
    And I don't reciprocate either - for some reason I have it in my head that it's a lady receives gifts occasion - not nice, I know!!!
    XOX

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  34. I find it amazing but the addition of a few kids just makes life feel different. The experience is wonderful but things you used to do are not what you do now.

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  35. We go back and forth. When our son was very small, we didn't do much. But, now that he's seven, we have more freedom to go out and enjoy ourselves a bit!

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  36. I can take it or leave it, it;s all about the chocolates for me and I don't need a holiday to have chocolates.

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  37. When I am in a relationship, I love all the holiday cards, the outings... of course I have not had it for many years so I might feel differently if we were both comfortable :)

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  38. Hmm, I do like to make a fuss of my husband still... probably in a less commercial way than previously though. I would prefer a picnic on the beach or a BBQ and champagne on our deck than a night out with a million couples.
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  39. I am always been that person that doesn't care about Valentine's day, however, I am also not in the relationship. The last 2 years I have always gotten an anonymous Valentine's card delivered to my house...creepy or cute? Hmm..I find it a tad creepy.

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  41. The hubs and I used to celebrate Valentine's day every single year until the kids came along. It's one of those days that is not a big deal for me other than an excuse to bake cookies!

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  42. We never go out for Valentines because of the crowd. But I usually make something nice for dinner. A lot of times I'll do crab cakes. And something yummy and chocolatey for dessert. We usually do a gift - but not romantic gifts. Always just something small the other person has been wanting.

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  43. I don't really care to celebrate Valentine's Day ON that day. Rich and I usually go out to dinner sometime around then though. I think I'm even past doing fun things with the kids...like the crafts and Valentine Day themed food. It's definitely losing the excitement it once had for me too.

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  44. We don't do much for each other on Valentine's Day either. We always get Elliott something. although a lot of times it's pretty small, since his birthday is February 1st, so he still has all of that new stuff to play with, read, etc.

    Last year we ended up buying him a TV, though, because we had just remodeled his room, and he no longer had room for his old box TV. I hope he doesn't think he's getting something that big this year. :)

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  45. Unfortunately we have fizzled as well... makes me think

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  46. We just go out to dinner to! We're "that couple" as well.

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  47. To be honest, we're not that kind of couple either. If we decide to go out on that day we do but usually we don't.

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  48. Uh, I'd say the previous comment above mine is spam! Me and hubby usually exchange gifts but they're nothing extravagant. And I refuse to go out to eat on Valentine's Day. No meal is worth waiting hours for.

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  49. We'll probably do the dinner at home thing.My boyfriend loves to cook so it's just an excuse for him to whip out the pots and pans.

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  50. This is my hubby and mine's second year celebrating, last year I cooked him a nice dinner and he supplied the wine. It was very relaxing and I think maybe that's what we'll do this year.

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  51. Not sure where my comment went. haha

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  52. Good for y'all.

    I don't care much for Valentine's Day either.

    It's so annoying. And puts pressure on people that is so unnecessary.

    Maybe I would appreciate it better if it was the only time I could get chocolate :)

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  53. I love Valentine's Day! My husband always gets me chocolates. :)

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  54. I wouldn't say I look forward to it. But I do enjoy receiving flowers. That is what we do for valentines day. We exchange cards and hubby buys me flowers. Then I make us a "special" dinner. Usually crab. We do give our grandchildren a little something too. But it is a mild holiday for us too. Hugs!!!! P.S. Thank you for sharing at the Thursday Favorite Things Blog Hop . Hope to see you sharing again this week. Big Hugs

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