Saturday, January 18, 2014

Censorship?

Is it censorship to say 14-yr. old kids cannot put up pictures of themselves on Facebook while smoking a joint? Last I heard, it was illegal to smoke it in most places, and certainly by a 14-yr. old.  Maybe she has a medical excuse for it, phhhhhft.

Um, excuse me, I have a medical prescription for that, thank you!!
Mmm, hmmm...yeah you do.  And I just came into ownership of the deed to the Parthenon.

I'm not big on reporting people or things, for the most part I think 'to each his own.' There are exceptions though (that I can count on one hand in all of my 43 years), and said photo is one of them. One of my daughter's Facebook friends from school thought it was a great idea to change her photo to one of her clearly smoking a joint, or whatever they're called these days?

I reported it as inappropriate, and checked the 'drug use' box.

It came back the same day, from FB admins. as appropriate.  "The photo was not taken down, not deemed inappropriate." They gave me suggestions which included a). ask the girl to take it down herself b). don't look at it
hahahahaa to the last one.  Oh my.

In any case, I was surprised by the decision. We're talking a very young teen, with a very inappropriate photo, on a public network used by a lot of people.

I understand censorship, and realize it is not something to dabble with...I do however, feel children under age DO need to have that, 'Really?  Take that down, it's inappropriate' stipulation, and if the parent's won't do it (or have no clue), then the website should take it down.  I KNOW not all of you are going to agree with me, and that's fine. I just thought it'd be a good topic of conversation for today's post.

Thoughts?

56 comments:

Julie Corbisiero said...

Hi Rosey, what these teens do not realize is that these photos come back to haunt you in other areas of your life such as getting into good high schools, colleges and jobs! This is not funny at all! You did the right thing with the situation! My hubby and I talk to our teen daughter about these kinds of things all the time. Take care and have a good weekend.
Julie

Teresa McCluskey said...

I completely agree with you on this topic. I am 24 years old and I have never in my life done something like this! I have never even had a joint! But internet photos haunt ppl in the future and thats no good!

Masshole Mommy said...

The thing is - when she goes to apply for college or say, get a job someday, that picture is going to surface and possibly effect her in a negative way. Once it's public, it's out there. Forever.

And yes, it IS highly inappropriate. When my boys are old enough to have a facebook account, they will more definitely be required to have me as a friend so I can monitor what is going on.

Ashley Gill said...

Every bit of this post needs to be blasted from the tops of the world! Facebook should have taken that photo down. c'mon!!!!!! Your daughter's friend needs a little more guidance in her life.

Vinma said...

I am not sure I like the idea of fb letting a post or pic like this to be publicly seen by everyone.. There are moral issues at stake here not to mention, the teen's future could be impacted as well..

Janine Huldie said...

Rosey, I have seen Facebook take down stuff that is way less appropriate then what you described here and just don't understand their rational at times. That said I totally agree with you on this and just sorry Facebook didn't!

Pat Hatt said...

Facebook is a crock, I tried to make a facebook business page for a guy with Hemp in his company name and as soon as I was done, poof, illegal to do so they deleted it. Yet this is alright? Then again they have half naked photos of themselves up there and other perverted things I've seen. One was so so so sick and couldn't go to work, yet she posted a pictured of her humping something on the floor looking happy as can be, weirdos abound. Teens shouldn't be allowed to use it if they don't have a brain.

Sandee said...

They have their own agenda and this fits their agenda. Facebook is a nightmare. I'm on it, but it's not my favorite place to be.

Have a fabulous day. ☺

Melanie Scout said...

I only use Facebook because I'm forced to. They do what they want and that's that. I'm with you on this one.

Susan Kane said...

Almost any teenager has the common sense of a gnat. Thinking beyond the post is almost beyond them. Parents need to have access to their FB entries, and gain the right to edit them.

Colette S said...

I'm glad you reported it and I would have too.
It's illegal and it's wrong.

That girl's parent should be monitoring things like that in regards to their child. They probably don't even know.

And it's a laugh to get facebook to do anything about something like that. They'd rather take down a breastfeeding photo.

And I'd have to tell my daughter to get her page off until it's appropriate.

And of course this is why children need parents. Especially at this stage when they think they know all about life and all the answers and then live to regret something like that because the bank wont employ them. Sad.

bxcrochet said...

It's so sad how some teenagers are living their life and how they think it's ok to post stuff like that. I hope the parent sees it and does something about it.

Michelle F.
Michelle F.

alissa apel said...

That's too bad that they won't just take it down. There have been things that I've seen that have been horrible on FB as well. It can be a negative thing. Teens can also get bullied via social media.

I had one grad message me asking about a student that applied at her work. She said she saw pot type pictures on his page, so they wouldn't hire him.

I can also be a positive things with social media to. My sister has met many wonderful supportive people through FB that have kids with the same genetic condition as Emerson has. I've been able to extend relationships with wonderful bloggers, such as you.

Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell said...

As freely as they seem to mark pages as spam, for them to approve illegal drug use just seems completely ridiculous. I'm flabbergasted.

Jayne Townsley said...

I agree with you. I wonder if Facebook's ignoring of this issue is due to the fact that they are losing younger people in droves and they don't want to push anymore away?

Megan Chamberlin said...

I am a little surprised they responded that way, but I agree with Jayne Townsley's theory above. I call it a parenting fail, personally.

Anonymous said...

That is shocking. I completely agree. There needs to be more restrictions. I would not doubt if that is the reason Jayne Townsley. Thank you for sharing! I had not even heard about this.

Tami Jardine said...

I am usually one to let things pass (even things I do not agree with)...I am like you, I say 'to each his own'. I think everyone is entitled to express themselves in the way that they see fit. However, when something is blatantly wrong, illegal or dangerous, that's where I draw the line.

It doesn't matter whether she is 14 or 41, isn't smoking pot illegal in the first place? And if it's for medical reasons...why parade it on a social network platform like that?

Facebook has taken down a lot less worst than that...what's there deal?

And as for that young girl...she needs some adult supervision!

Anonymous said...

sadly the standards for electronic media these days are different than they were...

One A Day Tech said...

I'm fairly young myself but I've never understood the psychology behind posting derogatory pictures of yourself online. Not only does it create a massively negative image of yourself, once on the internet, always on the internet. Anyway nice blog following!

One A Day Tech

Casa Vilora Interiors said...

This is not surprising these days. It's the dark side of technology and social media

Megan said...

Wow I'm surprised they didn't take it down. Shame on Facebook.

Mel@Mellywood's Mansion said...

I think it's interesting that I've had friends who've had pictures of them breast feeding deemed inappropriate and that's not. Shame on FB but where the heck is this girls mother? My kids have chosen not to go on social media, which I'm happy about but if they were I'd be their first "friend"

Aisha Kristine Chong said...

Not good at all but I guess FB didn't take it down for various reasons. There were actually more of phoos that I believed should not be on FB yet its there and uploaded -.-

Chatty Crone said...

Oh Rosey I so agree with you!

Elephant's Child said...

And where are this girl's parents? And yes, I agree that it is inappropriate, and hope that she doesn't find out just how inappropriate some years down the track.

Teresa Moody said...

Thats too bad that kids do that these days. FB needs to be on it better then that.

Joanna Sormunen said...

I think that it would been a propriate message from Facebook to take it down. Kids listen to Facebook more than their parents these days anyways.

Debi Gerhart said...

I am not one for censorship at all. I am very lenient about artist things, but this is illegal and that is that.

Karen said...

I don't agree with censorship, but when it is illegal and harmful to a child...that is not just censorship...that is common sense. facebook should have been ashamed...by keeping it up they are condoning that behavior and she is going to regret it one day.

M Clark said...

I'm surprised the photo was not deemed inappropriate. I guess the moral of this story is do not allow your children to be on facebook unsupervised

Launna said...

I don't think teens understand the ramifications of the internet... half the time I am not all that sure... my issue with the whole thing is where are her parents? I know what picture is on my child's FB and until she is an adult I will have access to her site. I would have not only taken the picture down, I would banned her from the site for a month. Oh well, we can only teach our children what is right. I hope you are having a great weekend Rosey :)

Rambling Momma said...

Teens just think the internet is fun, they really do not know the trouble or the outcome of such a situation, parents need to monitor more closely in my opinion, my daughter will give us full access to all her sites ( Facebook, twitter, blog etc) and we will keep a close eye on it

Mel Cole said...

These days, people wants other people to accept that bad things are ok. Very sad. Just keep an eye on your daughter.

Zulema Tomlinson said...

As a mother of 6, oldest being a 15 year old boy I see stuff like this all the time. Their parents have to be aware and if they aren't then they need to be!

Brian Miller said...

when the cops show up at the parents house they will wish FB had deemed it unfit...i have a cop friend that told me recently they mafe quite a few busts off FB

Mistee Dawn said...

That is crazy. So FB will shut a fanpage down for not having organic likes... but they won't take a photo down of an underage girl with drugs. Nice.

Ai Sakura said...

I would think it's inappropriate, especially coming from an underaged kid... seriously what was up with the "do not look at it option??? what's the point of the reporting option if FB isn't going to take it seriously??

Chubskulit Rose said...

I am with you on this. I think Facebook should be more strict on these things.

Growing Up Madison said...

I have never reported anything or anyone on FB but a picture like that totally needs to be taken down. What kind of message is that sending to other kids. I would also report it to her parents. They might not even know what their daughter is doing.

Ronnie E. said...

I'm often concerned by what Facebook deems appropriate.. it's certainly not on par with laws in most westernized countries.

Kenya G. Johnson @ KenyaGJohnson.com said...

I totally agree with you - not cool at all. I personally wouldn't want to see an adult with a profile pic smoking a joint. Keep it to yourself.

Amanda McMahon said...

interesting - i wouldn't want my kids seeing their friends do something like that, i mean if i KNEW they had a medical permit, it would be different, perhaps... hmm

becca said...

i'll never understand people i mean for me this is clearly inappropriate due to subject and young people seeing it yet fb doesn't think so yet they make a woman take down a picture of herself wearing a pair of pants that she can fit her entire body into one leg to show her weight loss. go figure

Samantha Cuhel said...

Facebook is a joke IMO. I honestly believe they have a bunch of kids deciding what's appropriate/inappropriate or what's spam, etc. I agree that it was an inappropriate photo, and probably would have brought it to the attention of her parents.

Mom of Two said...

I totally agree that FB should have taken it down, but I suppose if she has listed she is older than 18 when she is 18 and didn't really give a location, it might not really be illegal.

Maria Long said...

Totally agree with you Julie, just wait until people start googling them for jobs etc.

Self Sagacity said...

Interesting! When it comes to FB, I am totally paranoid - that is why I post on my blog first, if I can get my nerve up to share something on my blog - it's a prescreen.

Binky said...

I would agree with you, but then again I'm not a teen. I wonder what most of them would think of it? Probably not much I guess.

Theresa said...

Facebook is ignorant. Plain and simple. I don't think they know if they are coming or going. I will blame lack of parenting on the girl's behavior. My girls would be in serious trouble for a pic like that. One of my daughter's old friends had a very inappropriate sexual mouth gesture on her Instagram account. I wanted to puke, but knowing her mother, I see why she acts the way she does. All I can do is remind my girls what is trashy and what is classy, and thank the good Lord my daughter thinks this girl is not one to be following around anymore.

Marielle Altenor said...

If she is one of your daughter's facebook friend, does your daughter know her personally? If yes I'd so report her to her parents. I wouldn't want my child hanging around her.

Le-an Lai Lacaba said...

If teens publicly display their pictures like your example above, it jus shows how immature they are. And I'd do my best(if it was my own child) to let him/her stay away from those influences.

Our Neck of the Woods said...

I'm really surprised that Facebook didn't take the photo down. It seems like it was blatant drug use and it doesn't seem appropriate to me. That is sending the wrong message to kids!

Sonya M. Jones said...

I totally agree with Julie Corbisiero! These things may seem funny & cute when you're young. But, believe me people have been fired for less than inappropriate posting on social media. Parents really need to be on top of what their children online as well as off.

~ Noelle said...

I am not surprised that they didnt do anything...
They could argue she was in Colorado - or another state that says its okay... or even in amsterdam or somewhere else... not to mention the medical aspect of it all...
now, saying that... i think she is SO STUPID for posting it... and it will come back to bite her in the butt...
i would talk to my child that is friends with her... and truth be told, i might feel the need to contact her parents...

Fabulous Perks said...

I see a bunch of post on Facebook that is inappropriate. I can't stand it! I'm also no surprise that they didn't do anything. Anything to keep a user.