|Fly to Disney for the holidays? Yes, please (once upon a time).|
|The family acting like toy soldiers at Disney World for a photo opp.|
You can barely see my daughter she's so short. These days she's almost as tall as me. :)
When my grandmother too passed, things changed, and quite honestly my idea of a good holiday until even a few years ago was jaunting off to some great holiday destination, and taking a break from reality for awhile. We had Christmas at home (we celebrate on Christmas Eve) and took off the very next day. I don't regret those trips...we still had our big celebration at home, and then we went out and made some more great memories.
Now that I am getting older and things are changing yet again, my priorities for family holiday time are once again starting to shift. The oldest is now married and lives in another state, my second oldest went out of state to go to school, and my mom...who lives in yet another state, just lost her husband a few weeks back, leaving her completely alone. The family is scattered, holiday vacations are harder to come by (as a big group) because we're spread out all over the place, and the sense of unity as we've known it during holidays, is just different.
Don't get me wrong: Nothing makes me happier than to have all of my kids together in the same place with me. Nothing. And we do still get together, but it's not the primary focus of some of their lives anymore, they've got their own grown-up things going on now. And I don't like the thought of my mom being alone. So, some tough questions are coming into play.
My biggest concern at the moment is my mom. What is our role in her life now?
Do we offer to move her closer to us?
Is it something, she and we can afford?
What considerations do we need to keep in mind when contemplating what will or will not be done?
I found a great article to help me sort through the information, When and How to Coax a Parent to Move Closer. The article discussed the importance of looking at such things as a cost-benefit analysis (that is not wholly financial), the cost factor to you for having a parent move closer, the need to consult with family, and one I haven't done yet but fully intend to, discussing these things and more with the parent. I am not sure yet whether my mother has contemplated moving to a new state or not. Maybe she likes it where she is? Maybe she doesn't. Maybe she needs time to adjust? What are her finances like now that shes'll be down to a single income? Does she have medical, health, and/or life insurance covered, or was her husband the one who made all of those decisions?
|The best part of the holidays? Good old-fashioned, never-goes-out-of-style, family time.|
I'm not sure what the answers are to any of those questions, but I know we'll be sitting down together to find out. If we need help along the way, and I'm sure we will, I am confident Genworth Financial will be there to help clear up any areas that need a sharper focus. This will all happen soon, maybe when we get together over the holidays, and maybe shortly after, I don't know. Until then we will be enjoying each other's company and loving the holiday season.
Wishing the same to all of you (and for those reading the day I post, a big Happy Thanksgiving Day to you tomorrow if you celebrate it, and happy regular day to you, if you you don't). :)