Friday, October 11, 2013

Formal is Out of Style (isn't it?)

I like formal, and I know that's hopelessly outdated, but I do. I like formal homes, even though our house only has one room that is decorated in a formal manner and it sticks out like a sore thumb from the rest of the house (and of course, it's my favorite room). I like formal dress (I'd have probably been in my glory days in the older era where everyone regularly dressed to the nines). And I like a formal table (though that never happens at our house). There's just something about being crisp and clean and elegant and pretty (or handsome, as the case may be) that makes my day.

Formal is not the 'in' thing though. My oldest wears expensive brands (cuz he's grown and pays for them himself ;) ), all casual. My teen daughter owns more jeans than dresses (by far!) and rarely dons the latter, and my husband lives in jeans and a tee-shirt. My 20 yr. old son has a flair for dress-up once in awhile (and he looks great when he's dressed up), but he wears mostly casual wear too.


Does anyone remember getting dressed up every Sunday for church? My mom broke out her lipstick even, something she only did for special dinners out or church. And on holidays like Easter or Christmas, it was all out to the nines, hats included. Today none of the children dress up for church, at least they don't at ours. The photo above is my son's Sunday School class. I used to put him in a suit but he was the only one, so I stopped doing that long ago. Kids don't want to be the odd man out.


Today was picture day. I always put the youngest in a suit for picture day. It's a grand excuse to get him all dolled up, and I love it.  Clearly you can see from his expression in the picture above that he was thrilled too. hahahhahaha. He was worried he'd be the only one in a suit. I assured him that others would be wearing them too. And they were. When we walked into the school this morning, there were a couple of people all dressed up (mostly girls), but I'd guess somewhere along the lines of 95% of them were not.

I don't know what happened to liking the dressed up look, but I sure like it. That being said, since I became a SAHM I dress casual 99.9 % of the time myself. And such is life. :)  Have a great Friday everyone!

101 comments:

LuluG said...

I like getting dressed up. I love hats and lipstick for example.

Pat Hatt said...

LMAO he doesn't look impressed. Suit? pfft too much work, casual for me

Alison P. said...

Such a handsome picture. I try to dress my son in something with no pictures or words for picture day but nothing nearly as nice. Mine would never stand for anything with a collar...let alone the cute tie. I figure that the picture is going to look like he looks most days but just a little more angelic :) Hard to sell dressing up when I am in a tshirt and yoga pants :)

Lizbeth McGow said...

Oh my goodness...He must have been the most handsome boy at the entire school! what a precious picture that one is going to be! Hope you make lots of copies and a fancy post about them.
Mine likes to wear ties and suits too for some odd reasons. His problem is he can do them just one day but wants to dress like that Everyday, which is a problem when you are going to K or playing around the park, he doesn't mind but I'm mortified. lol...for halloween he wants to be 'A Bank Manager with a Haunted House" so I guess it will be the perfect time for him to dress up and everybody wonder what his costume (if any) it's all about! Hugs girl to all of you!

Sandee said...

Yes, I remember going to church every Sunday all dressed up. We wore dresses in school too. No girls wore pants back then. Times are way different indeed.

Have a terrific day. :)

Susan Kane said...

I retired from teaching in 2008, and slowly put the dresses in Good Will bags. I have one dress left, a few skirts. I do remember dressing up for Sunday. How I hated it.

Manzanita said...

Your little guy looks like a little boy should, all dressed in his suit. I'm totally old fashioned. I dress in work clothes a lot because of working in the garden, but when I'm not doing that, I do wear dresses. I much prefer to see a woman in dresses. Women should get a look at their behinds when they wear those painted-on type jeans. I loved the old days of cocktail dresses at 5 o'clock.

Christy Maurer said...

He looks adorable in that suit! I remember having to dress up for church too. Now we pretty much wear jeans, capris, or whatever.

Masshole Mommy said...

Formal is totally a thing of the past. I was just saying to Chris recently that I wanted to get all dressed up and head in to Boston for a night out....but no one does that anymore.

Theresa said...

I like to dress up occasionally, but mostly, I live in my yoga pants.

Lisa @ Two Bears Farm said...

He looks so cute!

~ Noelle said...

he is so handsome... i see they are much more casual now everywhere (especially our church too)

Our Neck of the Woods said...

He looks so cute! I love the suit! Seems like everyone is casual these days, and I have to say I usually am as well. Especially being out on the homestead I get dirty a lot, so I don't wear my nice clothes very often!

robin lorraine williamson said...

He's looks very handsome teach them young to dress nice for interviews because everywhere is so casual. I've become casual because of my illness not working in public on computer now. Great article thanks for sharing

myshelomitashop said...

Aaaw he is so adorable and handsome! Well, casual is also my thing. There were times when my husband and I used to just wear shorts and flip flop wherever we went. Especially my husband. One time we just got back from a holiday in Bali and got in the same flight with his corporate director. The Director looked puzzled because my husband was only wearing short, flip flop and a shredded t'shirt (it is shredded by style).
Casual is the most comfortable style to all of us, I guess? :D

ReviewsSheROTE Pamela R said...

You know what my son LOVES having a suit on Sundays--He did put on one NO FUSS for school photo's this year too =)

MikiHope said...

My Mom will be 91 in November and I have a heck of a time convincing her that we really do not need 3 forks, 3 spoons and 1 or 2 knives plus 2 glasses for each place setting--and do not forget the cloth table cloth and napkins! Yes, I was brought up that way--no, I am no longer that way at least in my apartment! However I am sure I would be able to sit at the Queen of England's table and not make a false move!

Melissa @ My Recent Favorite Books said...

Your pictures are so adorable! =) He looks so cute in a suit!
I like to dress up to go country dancing..but other days its very casual...

(Terry) My Journey With Candida said...

LOL that is so funny that he doesn't look thrilled to be all dolled up. He is so cute though... One day he will appreciate your effort.

Renae of Simple Sequins said...

Oh nice post, Rosey. I scrolled before I read and saw that somber photo of your son in his suit and wondered where this would be going. LOL

Let me just say, since I have been thrift shopping my wardrobe I have wanted to 'dress up again'. Is it the money? Is it saying, I don't have the money to buy the expensive dressier clothes? I don't know what happened but it has happened. I still dress up for church. The church I attend says that you dress your best, Your Sunday Best while worshiping God and Christ. I love that. But I do know personally that many other churches accept jeans, t's and sweats because I have seen it. Oh well, to each their own but to my own, I love to dress up and do every chance I can get. ♥

Karen Dawkins said...

Rosey, I have started dressing better over the past year as my business grows. Dressed up in my Sunday best? Not quite! But, I am out of my sweats and t-shirts wardrobe. :)

My daughter just had picture day -- and we dress up! :)

Mary said...

Aw! He's so cute looking all dolled up and irritated at the same time!

Prior to five kids, I used to dress up regularly. But now that only three are at home, I'm trying to up my game and not look like a middle aged mom!

My mom always felt dressed as long as she had her lipstick on! It was so adorable.

Have a great weekend!

Couponing Away Debt said...

What a handsome boy! I used to get dressed up all the time but since having kids Im lucky if I can get my makeup on lol

Holy Ghost Writer said...

It has gone out of style, sadly

Corinne Schmitt said...

My oldest has homecoming tomorrow and we had such a great time picking out his suit (he's wearing a vest). In some ways, it's nice that we don't dress up all the time because when we do it makes a special occasion feel even more special. If I ever put on lipstick, I'm sure my kids will be looking for the Queen of England to arrive.

Elizabeth Gentry said...

I have fun dressing up on occasion but it's usually only once or twice a year. I'll do casual dress for business and the rest of the time it's comfy clothes only

Launna said...

I love getting dressed up Rosey, since I have taken off so much weight, I actually wear dresses or skirts to work a couple of times per week and I always dress up for church on Sunday as does my Valya :)

Weekend-Windup said...

I love formal too. But I feel, we can't expect formal on everything. Certainly office suits should be formal

Becky said...

Oh my goodness..what a cute picture! And I agree with you. I think that there should be play clothes and nice clothes and nice clothes should be when you are out in public. Sometimes my husband teases me because I get my toddler dressed up for school, but I feel that her appearance is a direct reflection on me.

Czjai Reyes-Ocampo said...

Looking dapper, little man! :)

Binky said...

They still make suits?? I thought they were banned.

Laurie Collett said...

I love formal, which is probably one of the reasons I love ballroom dancing! I even posed for my "informal" senior yearbook picture in an evening gown. I used to love dressing up our son in suits and bow ties when he was a toddler. I love antiques and formal decor, and our "formal living room/foyer" is my favorite room too (even though it's decorated with garage sale and thrift store finds! Thanks for the great post & God bless!

Tracy Heyer said...

Nothing wrong with getting dressed up!! It always made me feel good when I dress up!!

DWei said...

I'd dress up a bit more but unfortunately I need to get my suit tailored again.

I've lost weight and it's still too baggy on me.

Mel@Mellywood's Mansion said...

I'm a jeans girl myself I love being caual it's one of the best thing about not going into an office anymore :) he looks adorable in his suit.

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Rosey .. we still dress up occasionally .. but it's more relaxed and easy going. We'd dress to go to London .. I do put 'tidy' on! It's good to make an effort once in a while ..

Church too would be tidy ...

Love the picture of your son - he looks one handsome lad! Cheers Hilary

Brian Miller said...

def more a jeans guy myself...but we do still dress up on occassion and make it a special thing....esp like dressing up to go out for dinner and maybe a bit of dancing...smiles.

Lexie Lane said...

I don't go to church often but when I do, it's always with my mom and she still makes me get dressed up.

He is a doll! Some day he'll appreciate it as he is so handsome.

Ann Jones said...

I have the odd children out, they love getting dressed up :) My oldest has about 15 dressy hats (fedoras etc) that he loves wearing out on weekends. He also owns a number of suits and his favorite shirts are button down. I think he loves all the compliments he gets since he isn't wearing jeans and t-shirt!

Colette S said...

I love dressing up too! I have a dress up story.

See in our country we dress up for work, church, outings, photos. etc. And it doesn't mean you have a lot of money. We take one pants and 3 shirts and rock it!

My daughter at this age loves her pretty dresses and wants to wear them everywhere, so I"m glad.

The boy? No. He wants less dressing :)

The husband...jeans and tee all the way. I just want to take him to a CK store! haha.

Oh well.

Your little man looks so dapper! :) Haha haven't used that word in a long time.

Hope photo day is memorable. All I know, he will be handsome! Smile or not smile. :)

Kimberly Grabinski said...

There are some things that I don't mind being a little less formal but i do miss the days where adults were treated with more respect. Kids calling adults by their first names bothers me. I'm 41 and to this day I call my friend's moms "Mrs. _____" (whatever their last name is).

Kenya G. Johnson said...

Last year I had Christopher wear a "church" shirt to school for picture day. When we got the pictures back I said, "What's up with your smile son?" He said, "It matters with what kind of shirt I have on." So in other words he wasn't comfortable. At our church people wear jeans but I grew up in a "formal" church so I just can't do it unless it's bible study or something. I do wear pants though. But I'm in heels and a blouse. Christopher wears slacks and a "church" shirt ;-)

Judy Haughton-James said...

Your little son certainly looks great in his suit Rosey! There was a time when I used to dress real formal, stockings and all. I still dress formal when I go to church or special events.

Susan Flett Swiderski said...

I used to enjoy getting all dressed up, and yeah, I remember when everyone got dressed up for church. I used to have quite a collection of spiffy hats and white gloves. Heck, my friends and I even got all dressed up in heels, hats, and gloves to go to downtown Baltimore on the bus. Times sure have changed. Nowadays, I'm dressed up if the pants I'm wearing don't have an elastic waistband...

mail4rosey said...

A picture is worth a thousand words, lol

mail4rosey said...

I hear great things about yoga pants all of the time. I'm so going to try them sometime soon.

mail4rosey said...

hahaha, my son wants to wear superhero capes and underwear over his pants (like Superman of course) out in public. I let him once and my daughter still hasn't recovered from it. :D

You're one of the craftiest people I know, I bet you'll rock his costume idea. :)

Hugs back to you. :)

mail4rosey said...

I used to always like it. I'm so comfy now I bet I'd miss my sweatpants, lol (yikes!).

mail4rosey said...

I still can't bring myself to go to church in jeans or shorts.

mail4rosey said...

lol
My son's teacher dresses casually. She's cute as a button but I don't think I've ever seen her in a dress.

mail4rosey said...

I don't remember that! I bet it was fun!

mail4rosey said...

I've seen teens show up in shorts, tanks, and flip flops. Wait, I've seen moms show up in that too, hahaha. :)

I don't mind, just noting the stark difference on it between my childhood and my children's. :)

mail4rosey said...

I hope you did it anyway! :)

mail4rosey said...

Everyone loves their yoga pants! I'm going to have to try them, I have none!! :)

mail4rosey said...

Thanks, Lisa. He's a sweetheart.

mail4rosey said...

Shorts are common in our church. Music's different too, come to think of it. :)

Hope you're having a fun weekend. :)

mail4rosey said...

Eesh, I remember mowing in my heels because I was in a rush before (when I had a 'real' job). :) How silly!!! Our yard was small then though. :)

mail4rosey said...

I bet kids are going to interviews dressed casually. I didn't even think of it until you said it.

Thanks for the visit!

mail4rosey said...

lol that's funny! Especially if the director was in his suit. :)

Have a great weekend!

mail4rosey said...

He'd cute anyway, I bet he looked great all dressed up. :)

mail4rosey said...

LOL and your mom and the queen would be so happy! :)

mail4rosey said...

How fun that you go out dancing!

mail4rosey said...

He's a hoot. I love his personality and he's def. not afraid to announce what he likes or doesn't. :)

mail4rosey said...

I've never seen you not dressed up, and you always look fantastic!

mail4rosey said...

My daughter wears a uniform in high school, so that one's easy enough come picture day. :) Have a great weekend!

mail4rosey said...

My mom's the same (still) w/the lipstick. :)

Great weekend to you too!

Lauren Thompson said...

I'm with you! And your little guy looks so handsome in his suit! I loved getting dressed up when I was little, and even though I work from home during the week in an outfits that can only be classified as slightly dressier than pajamas, I really enjoy getting dressed up for church each week and special occasions. My husband and I have tickets to the opera next weekend, and I cannot wait to get all dolled up for that! Thanks for sharing. :)

Monica said...

Can we just talk about how CUTE your little guy is in that suit!!!! I too have vivid memories of our "Sunday best". We all get decked for church - and sadly I miss the formlessness of it all.

Lindsey Domer said...

I LOVE when young men and little boys get all dressed up! It is just so adorable, no matter how old they are. My student athletes have to wear a suit and tie on game days and I love it! :)

Kristie said...

I like the formal look too! Little ones, especially, look adorable all dressed up! LOVE the suit on your little guy! We still have the kids wear nice slacks and a button-up shirt for church. (My daughter doesn't happen to have a dress for this time of year right now, but she'd be all about wearing one if she did!)

ChatterBlossom said...

My goodness, what a handsome young man!! I understand what you mean too. I love the elegant, put together look and you rarely see that anymore.
-Jamie
ChatterBlossom

mail4rosey said...

Since I stayed home with the youngest I've got the same thing going on. :)

mail4rosey said...

I do believe it has, ah well it's easier, I guess. We (collectively) do like things to be easy. I'm guilty of that too. :)

mail4rosey said...

I hope he had a great homecoming!

mail4rosey said...

It is fun when we get to dress up for a reason, I agree. :)

mail4rosey said...

I used to LOVE getting my daughter dressed up. She's a teen now though, and her idea of dressed up isn't the same anymore as it was when she was a little girl. ;)

mail4rosey said...

It did used to be that way, but I see casual creeping into the offices more and more too.

mail4rosey said...

I keep my little guy dressed nice too. I like shopping for him. He's my last one left to let me shop for him so I'm taking full advantage. ;)

mail4rosey said...

Little sweet guy. He had the suit half off before he even got in the door after school, hahahaha

mail4rosey said...

They still make 'em and sell 'em too. We've got several in the house for proof. ;)

mail4rosey said...

How fun that you had a gown for your yearbook post! Ballroom dancing is amazing to watch.

mail4rosey said...

So long as you're not the only one every time, then it gets awkward. Not that I'm speaking from experience (cough) or anything. :)

mail4rosey said...

I thought you were trying to pack on the pounds. I'm headed over to your blog to see what's new.

mail4rosey said...

I think not having to go to cluster meetings ( a total waste of time ) is the best thing about not going to an office anymore. :)

mail4rosey said...

You look perfectly dressed in your avatar. :) Cheers to you too, and thank you for the compliment. :)

mail4rosey said...

It's been a good year or so since hubby and I got dressed up to go out. :) We're overdue!

mail4rosey said...

LOL my mom would be mortified if I tried to go to her church in jeans, hahaha The thought made me laugh. :)

mail4rosey said...

How fun that he wears the hats! I have two grown boys who look great when they dress up too (though they don't do it often). It's fun to see them taking that pride in the way they look. :)

mail4rosey said...

You're the second person to use the word, and I hadn't heard it in awhile either. ;) That's fun that our daughter likes to dress up. Mine used to...she's a jeans/shorts girl these days. :)

mail4rosey said...

I still call my friend's moms from school Mr. or Mrs. too, with one exception. :)

mail4rosey said...

My kids have their 'church' shirts too. :)

That's funny that he said his smile equated to what he was wearing. Smart guy!

We have a school pic of one child with virtually no smile. He looked brooding and handsome, but no smile. I asked him why and he just smiled (a big smile), lol. So I'm still clueless to this day. That's the one hanging on the wall still, since it was his last year of school. :)

mail4rosey said...

I remember when EVERYONE (well the women, lol) wore stockings. Now most people go bare legged. That's a big change from when I was a girl.

mail4rosey said...

LOL on the elastic band (laughing because I've got on my elastic band pj's). :)

mail4rosey said...

I hope your opera trip is awesome!

mail4rosey said...

My daughter is 14 and even with her I dressed her up every Sunday for church, right along w/the other kiddos in the class. Times are changing pretty fast, or I'm slowing down (could be the latter but we don't need to talk about that). :)

mail4rosey said...

The teens do look nice when they come to an event all suited up. I used to think that when my older two were teens. :)

mail4rosey said...

I can't remember if I liked dressing up or not. Doesn't seem like I minded, or I guess I would remember. ;) I remember not liking melon or peas, hahaha

Thanks for the visit. :)

mail4rosey said...

You ALWAYS look put together (& fantastic!) on your blog!!

momo said...

(Formal is Out of Style (isn't it?) I think it is great! Shows that this little guy has a sense of style and class also. Who knows he may become a lawyer, doctor, or something else really great. He looks very handsome.

mail4rosey said...

He looks handsome to me. :)

Thank you for your kinds words and visit.

bxcrochet said...

he is adorable in his suit!

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