Friday, August 9, 2013

I Don't Care! Can You Be TOO Laid Back?



If you don't care, are you TOO laid back?

I'm not talking answering with, "I don't care" when people ask where you want to go, what you want to do, or where you want to eat. I have opinions on those and most things. ;)

I'm talking about not caring what others are doing/not doing?  If it's not my kids, and no one's being hurt, I don't care. I don't mean it in a bad way, au contraire, I just mean it in a 'to each his own' way, and of course there are exceptions.

Last night a good friend of mine was on a roll telling me about things that were driving her nuts. She laughed at something I told her and said, "I know you! None of this would even bother you." I agreed.

She then told me, and I love her...so this isn't a public diss (I would never, she's my bud),

"You are TOOOOO laid back and that's why people take advantage of you!"

I admire strength in people. But I think strength comes in different forms for different people. I stand up for myself, my rights, and my husband and kids: always. It's never even a second thought.

But if you're playing your radio while others around you are working, or your lipstick is purple, or you like to eat a chicken lunch at the desk (as long as you're not in a place where clients/customers/students come in) and it makes the room stink, I don't care. Have at it. :)  That doesn't make me tooooo laid back, or someone who is taken advantage of, it just leaves the 'offender' lucky that there's one less person in the room grouching at them. ;)

I'm thinking the general population is split right in half with this (with people who care about little things, and people who don't). Even my house is split...with two people who get easily irked, and four of us who, if it's not hurting someone, 'don't really care.'

So as part of an informal, and completely useless survey, just to amuse myself...which side bears more weight for you? Do little things get to you more often than not? Or do most things just roll right over w/o a second thought?

39 comments:

  1. I'm with you! I could probably be considered to be too laid back. But I think it mostly comes from me being a very non-confrontational person so unless it is a big deal, I usually just let it roll right over. There are so many different types of people in this world with their own weird quirks, so if I got irked at every little thing I didn't like or agree with, I'd be irked all the time! :)

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  2. My husband is literally the most laid back person I've ever met. It actually annoys me sometimes because he just goes with the flow. Sometimes I want him to just make a decision, but whatever the situation is - it just doesn't matter to him, you know?

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  3. It's the bigger things that get me amped up. GMOs, the junk in our food and water...stuff that affects myself and my family. Other stuff is no big deal!

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  4. It used to be that every little thing would bother me ... but now I am getting much better at letting go of things.
    I'm definitely more high strung than I should be but there is a reason for it {sometimes, well mostly, I don't know - I justify it :) }

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    1. I thought of your "letting go" series when I was typing. :)

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  5. I too do sometimes let things bother me and I think I was even labeled over sensitive in the past. I am trying now and will tell you I have been doing much better with this, but like you said if hurts my kids then all bets are off. I have been having a bit of an issue with my in-laws and stuff like I can usually let slide, because it is impacting my older daughter has been getting to me lately. So, you are so right when it is about our kids that's where I draw the line on this!

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    1. I think I'm so laid back now because I was so uptight as a teen. Just a theory. :)

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  6. I'm like you as well when it comes to random people. Why get involved?

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  7. I wish I were more like you! lol. Sometimes I let the little things bother me, when they really shouldn't. I just can't help myself sometimes. lol

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  8. Leave me and mine alone and don't care what you do, as long as you aren't hurting someone or something like that. Some things irk me though if they do it right in my face. Like pick their toes nails at their desk or something lol

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  9. I guess it depends on the day and the mood I am in wether I care about the little things or not. Usually not... but sometimes.... LOOK OUT!!

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  10. Love your theme! Looks strangely familiar.. lol! Thank you for linking up on the Bloglovin' hop! I'm following you now, too! I'm pretty laid back as well.

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  11. Great post, Rosie! I am funny. Some things bug the crap out of me, and some things I take with a grain of salt. I don't think that it shows strength to be one way or the other though.

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    1. Strength in her eyes is speaking up when people annoy you. Being unable to fathom NOT being annoyed, she believes I'm behaving weakly by letting people do whatever they want w/o grouching. ;)

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  12. I wish I was laid back! But I am not! :(

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  13. Rosey, I have had to learn to go more with the flow - one thing that is annoying when you ask someone - what would you like for dinner, they say I don't mind and then they turn their nose up at what you decided to do! Rant over! Cheers

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  14. That's a hard one to answer because I can be both ways, depending on what it is. For the most part I probably don't care, as long as your actions aren't interfering with others.

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  15. I'm sure it depends on the little thing. If it's sound-related, I can't let it roll. I have sensitive hearing and noise bugs the crap out of me. Most anything else, I roll with. I'm pretty open-minded so what other people do really doesn't bother me.

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  16. Sometimes things do irk me. I try not to let them, but sometimes they do. I'm not confrontational though, so I usually don't say anything--especially if i know it SHOULDN't bother me.

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  17. Small things used to bother me a lot. I worked on it and now I let most of them roll off - most, not all.

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  18. I think you can be too laid back, if you don't take action sometimes your life won't head in the direction you want to go. Sometimes you need to stand up and get things done.


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  19. im told im to laid back as well, people take advantage of me many times because of it, im learning

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  20. I'm told I'm too laid back too! More often than not things just roll over without a second thought, meh!

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  21. LOL!
    I am very much a "live and let live" person, as long as the actions of others aren't disturbing me too much I really wouldn't care.

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  22. My husband and I have had this argument :) He is really bad about not letting anything bothering him. Which is okay with little things, but if you have a sick family member etc and someone has to step up to help it ends up being me (not him). I am also the one that has to do any confrontations with other parents, stores etc since he just won't do it. Great topic!

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  23. eh not really for me...the little things just happen you know...and i dont care about those...but there are things that i do...and well as long as you really dont and are not letting them build up you know....

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  24. The vast majority of things I let roll off of my back. Not all but the majority. I am 70/30 as far as laid back vs. high strung.

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  25. The only thing that annoys me are the people who get annoyed at everything and everyone else. I avoid negative people at all costs -- life is too damn short to always be grouchy.

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  26. Bad manners in any form get my goat. That's what it boils down to with me. If bad manners isn't in the mix then I don't care either.

    Have a terrific day. :)

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  27. First of all, I don't really understand your the statement your friend made: "You are TOOOOO laid back and that's why people take advantage of you!" None of the things that you mentioned in this post are people taking advantage of you... unless that person with the music playing loudly actually bothers the mess out of you to the point that you can't get your work done, but you still won't ask that person to turn it down. Then, it isn't really being laid back, it is being non-confrontational over something that actually bothers you very much. But, that isn't how I read this post. You genuinely seemed to not be bothered by ANY of these things, so I don't understand how you're being taken advantage of by anyone. Did you ask her to explain that comment?

    I would say that I am searching for balance in my life. I want to recognize the things that bother me (because they should) and things that are just annoying. I would say that I am working at letting those annoying things rolls off, and am getting better at it. I am also learning when someone has crossed my boundaries and that is why I am riled up. In that case, it is a matter of setting a boundary with that person. As someone who has had terrible boundaries (with everyone), I did spend a good deal of time feeling annoyed and pressured and all the rest. That is what happens when you don't set boundaries with people. Everyone crosses them all the time and you feel "upset, taken advantage of, dried up, even abused" without understanding why. It's all boundaries.

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    1. I already knew what she meant (we've been friends for over 20 years). ;)

      She can't fathom such little things NOT bothering someone, so she thinks I'm just letting people take advantage by not saying anything. But really, I'm not bothered, lol.

      I agree with you on boundaries. I have them, but I didn't in my youth. My husband is better at them than anyone I know.

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  28. I agree with you. I'm laid back about most things :) It is too distressing to be stressed out about everything!

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  29. This is how I look at it: Every one is different. If we were all the same this world would be a pretty boring place! If one is too laid back, one could say the person that is judging that is too high strung. To me we're all different people.

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  30. for the most part, i would like to say i am laid back... but then again, i might not be...
    somethings do irk me to no end though ;)

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  31. I'm pretty laid back, I'm an each their own too, life's ok short to worry about other people's quirks.

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  32. I am so on the I Don't Care line. My family members aren't though, and it drives me nuts. I can block out most of the distractions, they can't and get irritated easily. Like you said, to each their own.

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  33. Mmm. Maybe sometimes it's possible, like in an abusive relationship. But we're glow with the flow kind of people in our family. :)

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  34. I'm laid back about life too. I care, but I don't.

    Now when it comes to family and friends....I'll be involved more :)

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  35. I'm in the "I don't category" for the most part. I think some people get their panties wound in a bunch too much and stick their nose in places it doesn't belong or start grouching for no reason. Like you said, if it's not hurting someone, I don't care. I don't care what you wear, how you eat your food, what shows you watch, or if you prefer plastic over paper.

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