Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Do You Use the Phone for Phone Calls?



I distinctly remember how much joy the telephone brought me when  I was a kid, mostly in middle and high school, but before that too.

When I was growing up, every home had a phone.  Every phone had a cord.  And every house with a child had a parent who told them to stop pulling that cord so far while they were talking on it.

Calling my grandparents was always a treat.

Talking to my friends after school was a given...does anyone remember hearing, "What on Earth could you possibly have to talk about for so long when you just saw each other all day in school??"  

And then when I got old enough to have a guy friend, talking on the phone was elevated to a whole new level of importance.

Today talking on the phone seems to have lost its allure.  Most people, children and adults included, break out their phones to communicate via text, not by dialing a number.  I asked my son once why he didn't just call his girlfriend instead of texting her, and he said he doesn't like talking on the phone.

This morning I woke up thinking about one of my closest out-of-state friends.  We used to talk on the phone fairly regularly.  Now a'days we send each other e-mails, and we see each other at least once a year (usually).  We next to never talk on the telephone.  E-mail... yet another form of communication that has replaced the telephone call.

So, I'm curious:  Is the telephone becoming obsolete?  Do you use other forms of communication far more often than you make a call?  I know a lot of homes don't even have landlines anymore and I can't help but scratch my head and wonder, Who woulda' thunk it??


65 comments:

alissa apel said...

I don't as much. Sometimes I talk to my parents. My husband has conversations with his parents once in awhile to.

Pat Hatt said...

I only use it to call mom once in a while, as with texting she won't stop bothering me throughout the day, so I figure if I call i can get it all over with at once lol then of course have to use the thing at work, other than that nope.

Masshole Mommy said...

Nope.

I almost never answer my phone, and I sure as heck never check my voice mails. Most people who know me, now to text me or email me to get in touch with me.

Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell said...

I used to absolutely love it too, but now, not so much because it feels like I'm wasting time. I adore talking to my kids, but outside of that..nah.

AllyJo said...

I hate the phone. We only talk to family and close friends. Only important people get to hear my "voice". LOL

Optimistic Existentialist said...

ah yes, the lost art of the phone conversation. Ironic you should write this, as I have been comtemplating a similar post. I really miss the days of talking on the phone for hours and hours. I used to love it so much :)

My Journey With Candida said...

I would rather talk on the phone than text or email..... but then I am no spring chick.

Kristi Maloney said...

I can totally relate to this post. We did the same in my family- talked on the phone forever.(I am thinking we are about the same age? lol) Great post. Brings back fond memories. I used to love to talk on the phone. Now I find myself doing the same thing - emailing or texting.

We got rid of our land line phone when we thought we sold our house. The sale fell through and we are back in the house. We did end up getting a land line again. I think its important for emergencies or just to have a reliable phone for the school to get a hold of me. My cell phone cuts in and out in the house.

Theresa said...

I only talk on the phone to my mom. Usually several times a week. She's about the only one I can stand to talk on the phone with. I usually just converse with people through text, email and Facebook. I love the ease of text. I hate having only one thing to say, call someone to tell them, then get stuck on the phone for a long time. It's much quicker just to send a text.

Raising Reagan said...

Talking on the phone is almost obsolete. We rarely answer our home phone. Our cells are used for texting or Facebook now.
I actually got a letter in the mail the other day from a good friend and it was nice to send one back via mail.
It's kind of crazy the things that go away with all the technology!

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Maria said...

i use my cell phone for SO much. we never use our house phone. my mom and i could talk for hours and hours on the phone...even if we are going to see each other that same day. one of my friends and i used to have marathons. usually, i communicate through email, texting and chats with a handful of friends/family members.
i was the same way in high school. :)
hope you're having a great day! xoxo
maria

ChatterBlossom said...

We don't have a telephone. Just cell phones and I rarely use that either. I just instant message and email more than anything.

-Jamie
ChatterBlossom

Our Neck of the Woods said...

I do think the telephone is becoming somewhat obsolete. I don't think it will ever go away completely, but it has definitely lost popularity. I heard someone mention the other day that now it's almost considered rude to just call someone out of the blue instead of texting them to set up a time to talk. Crazy, right?

RACHEL TaoOfPoop said...

Oh my gosh, I was just thinking about this! I find it odd that teenagers would want to text back and forth for hours rather than talk. I do love to text for short things though. Great post!

Dina Lettre said...

I still very much prefer the landline, tho texting can be really convenient. :)

Secondary Roads said...

I don't text, but I do e-mail. For some things the phone is still best.

Felicia Carter said...

I know exactly what you mean. Now that I am older and a majority of my job is spent on the phone, I would much rather not text or be on a phone call. I just want to come home and chill!

Laura Darling said...

I probably only use it for phone calls about 10 percent of the time. But at work I make phone calls all day long! I only wish that kind of phone would become obselete! :)

Frugal in WV said...

We got rid of our home phone about 5 years ago. Now we just have cell phones. I do talk on my cell phone a couple of hours each day though since my dad lives 2500 miles away and my mother-in-law loves talking :)

xinex said...

You are so right. I hardly use my phone except when scheduling service for anything in the house....Christine

Courtney G said...

We still have 2 main land lines. The home line, that is always there, even when the power goes out, which is really nice when that happens. Then, I have my office line, that is also for the house alarm, and I don't think I'll ever let it go. I can't stand talking on a cell phone that gives me static, drops the call, or I have to move around the room to get the signal. I don't like them, and I don't like texting even more, because you can say everything so much more quickly, or leave a detailed voicemail with the intonation in your voice that is appropriate. I'll hear some say that skype can replace regular phones, but in business, unless you have a great poker face, there is much that is protected in negotiating a deal without seeing revealing facial expressions. You know what I mean?

Gourmet Getaways said...

I use all forms of communication! I think we are more in touch than ever now. I laughed at your memories, I have the exact same ones ;) My mum use to curse that our phone was always engaged :0!

Laurie Collett said...

I own a cell phone for emergencies but never use it. I'll call my hubby from our land line just to chat, but otherwise I really prefer speaking to people face-to-face or by email/blogs/Facebook. Thanks for the intriguing post, & God bless!
Laurie

myshelomitashop said...

My mom's house still has landline but it barely on these days. People don't dial the number anymore and my mom carries two mobile phones! I have all my friends on my blackberry messanger, facebook, twitter, email..but if you ask me their phone number I don't have it. When I really need to talk then I will facebook/bbm them to ask their number. Stupid huh? Because I never keep it in the contact list either, so it's like a repetitive action. When you need to talk ask for the number, and then forget about it :P

~ Noelle said...

I used to LOVE the phone...
as in I had my own number in highschool.
remember those days?!
now, its more text, but I do talk to my parents on the phone often.

Colette S said...

Yes I still use the phone with the cord! the kids still play hop and pull with the cord! And I say the same thing over and over :)

I must say this: I think why people are in such a state of dissociation from being able to show empathy in most situations these days (especially kids) is because we've cut ourselves off from people. We do need other people, feeling, touching, speaking, sharing space and voices to grow.

But I'd prefer to be in touch by talking than have the telephone with the cord going obsolete, but just like those phone booths (remember those), soon the phone / land lines will follow. So sad. Change eh.

MW Harris said...

I know what you saying. I like the landlines but it does seem it is going more to cellphones
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Carla said...

We have a VOIP phone. And we still use it a lot. Elliott doesn't have a cell phone (he's only seven) but still likes to talk to his friends on the phone. Sometimes he uses my cell phone, but usually he uses the house phone.

We also talk to my mom on the phone several times a week. She doesn't text, and only checks her email if I call and tell her I sent her pictures or something. I talk to my husband almost every day when he gets off work, too. He calls instead of texting, because until very recently, texts would take hours to show up in the house because of bad reception. Now it's habit for him to call to tell me when he is on his way home.

I talk to one of my sisters on the phone occasionally, but mostly use text messages to communicate with most of my family.

Judy Haughton-James said...

We have so many cellular phones at our home. I still like to make phone calls and rarely send texts. This is how I keep in touch with friends and relatives here and abroad. Actually I have not learnt text language very well and tend to write out every word. No wonder I rarely send them!:)

Mel@Mellywood's Mansion said...

I use the phone and the kids use their mobiles I think kids are missing out by texting but mine do use their phones mainly or text they usually only call me or jules.

Michelle said...

I definitely use Facebook more than I use anything, including the phone. I'm not a huge texter because I don't have an all-inclusive plan. I DO remember talking on the phone almost every day, though. My parents actually bought a timer so that we wouldn't be on so long!

mail4rosey said...

Buwhahaha, on the timer. A lot of people here have some of the same memories I do but the timer made me laugh. My mom threatened one weekly but never pulled through (whew!). ;)

mail4rosey said...

My oldest calls because he and his wife live out of state, but I don't think he 'calls' anyone else. Glad he's given me the exception. ;)

mail4rosey said...

I'm not up on the text language either. I have just caught on to some of the computer jargon. ;)

mail4rosey said...

My mom doesn't even have Internet (by choice, lol!). :)

mail4rosey said...

I wonder if cells outweigh landlines now in homes?

mail4rosey said...

I do remember those phone booths, I almost did my Wordless Wednesday post on one of them. ;)

mail4rosey said...

I begged for my own number and never got it. Lucky you!

mail4rosey said...

That's funny that your mom has two phones. I forget email addys because they're in the 'contact' list. Sort of the same thing. :)

mail4rosey said...

Thanks for the visit, Laurie. :)

mail4rosey said...

My mom was not so happy that ours was always engaged either, and we didn't have call waiting...just a busy signal. ;)

Remember Operator Breakthroughs? LOL

mail4rosey said...

Our landline is cordless so when the power goes out we have nothing. I do know what you mean about the facial expressions. I hope Skype doesn't replace regular phones in business.

mail4rosey said...

Thanks for reading. :)

mail4rosey said...

LOL, we have a chatty family member too. ;)

mail4rosey said...

LOL, different perspectives come into play. ;)

mail4rosey said...

It is nice to come home to downtime when you're working all day. Agreed.

mail4rosey said...

I e-mail daily. Far more than I use the phone. :)

mail4rosey said...

Texting is convenient if you don't want to talk to the other person, but that 'other person' usually doesn't text. ;)

mail4rosey said...

Thanks, Rachel. I don't text much, but I will send an "I love you" over to the kids once in awhile. ;)

mail4rosey said...

Ugh, I remember when 'on the whim' phone calls, or even visits were fun. Now you have to be careful not to offend so everything is so plaaaaaaaaaanned.

mail4rosey said...

Cell phone inventors were brilliant. ;)

mail4rosey said...

I am having a great day. I hope you are too. I'm counting down days with you!

I used to call my gram and talk for hours when she was alive. :)

mail4rosey said...

Reflecting on how different it is now, from my generation, you're right, there are so many things altered or gone because of improved technology. It's pretty amazing. :)

mail4rosey said...

My husband doesn't like the phone and won't text, but he does e-mail. He even e-mails me sometimes when we're in the same house, lol!

mail4rosey said...

I'm 42, a bit older than you, I believe. Sorry your house sale fell through! The value of houses where we live has plummeted since we bought, so who knows if we'll be able to sell quickly when the time comes. Hopefully the market will improve by then.

mail4rosey said...

No spring chick here either. That's okay, we still chirp just fine...even if it is on the phone instead of in a text. :)

mail4rosey said...

We had radiators back when I was a kid and I'd snuggle up next to one of those to chat, lol.

It really was sooo easy to be a kid. ;)

mail4rosey said...

The privileged few. :)

mail4rosey said...

I never mind a phone call from the kids either. ;)

mail4rosey said...

Hubby won't set his up for voice mail, lol. He has zero interest in it.

mail4rosey said...

And being a mom I can tell you she probably appreciates it very much. Phone calls from the kiddos never get old, even when they're grown. ;)

mail4rosey said...

My mom doesn't have e-mail or a cell so the only way I can get her would be through the phone. She sends mail too, regularly (the only person I know who does, actually). :)

Henrietta said...

I too remember how much I loved the phone as a kid. My dad had this really cool office phone and I would have three way conference calls with my besties for hours on end. I swear it was attached to my ear! No, I hate talking on the phone! Neither one of my kids like it either, they are always texting.

mail4rosey said...

We did three-way calls too, you could click over real fast and dial. Totally forgot about that one. : )

Cathy Kennedy said...

I am ashamed, I feel much like your son. I just don't like talking on the phone like I did once upon a time. It's really disturbing, too. I know emailing and texting are vises which break down the first line of defense to communicating more effectively and I've been sucked right into the thick of it.

We haven't jumped the bandwagon completely in abandoning traditional outside ties to the world. We still have a landline, actually it's an internet phone (MagicJack), and I don't think we'll ever do away with having a line in our home. I guess what I need to do is excuse myself more by picking up the handset and dialing a friend or family member more often than I do now. It may do me some good and who knows maybe the person I'm calling. :)