Friday, September 28, 2012

The Boy with Blue Hair

My daughter's latest collage


My daughter has had a boy 'friend' for two years.  They did everything together and swore up and down the didn't like each other 'that way!'  Everyone knew better, her friends, her family, his friends, his family... and we all rub it in liberally now that they do like each other thaaaaaat way.

This boy has blue hair.  He didn't always have blue hair, of course...and who am I to judge?  My own daughter, after all, has vegan (temporary all-natural) hair dye in her hair that has turned her gorgeous natural platinum blonde tresses to red (why are we never happy with what we have?).  Different hair colors... a new trend, I know.  I see pink, orange, green, yellow, and yes, blue hair all of the time coming out of the school doors.  I see it on the pop stars my daughter likes to listen too.  And I see it on the younger set on the television shows she likes to watch.  So it should have come as no surprise to find out she wanted to have her hair done in a different color (her dad's nicer than me, I said no). 

I know it is the person who is important, not the hair, and I think my daughter's boyfriend (the boy with the blue hair) is a peach of a young man.  But I do feel a bit out of sorts when there are children running around with hair that is every color but their own. I remember my family not approving of boys with long hair, or ripped jeans.  They may have liked the kid, but not the style(s).  And now, a generation later, I'm faced with the same feelings, but now it's my daughter who thinks I'm the one out of date (how could this have happened?! lol), and just totally not with the times (I don't like the bangs in your face look that either of them like to sport either).  It's okay though... I know her day is coming too (when she someday has children of her own), so I can kick my feet up, drink my coffee, and smile as I listen to the pure joy coming out of her mouth when she talks about spending time with her new boyfriend...the young man everyone likes (including me!)...the boy with the blue hair.


30 comments:

  1. His Hair Color Shouldn't Make A Difference On How You See Him. Try To See The Person Inside and Not What Other People Think . Anna

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    1. I agree, Anna, totally. I'm just marveling at how I've reached the 'older generation.' :)

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  2. I am almost positive I will have similar conversations with my daughter in a few years. She is six and already loves shoes and clothes and accessories and is constantly asking to put on makeup. I'm sure dying her hair will come up as soon as she realizes it's an option!

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    1. Thank goodness for non-chemical dyes, yes? :)

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  3. Every time something comes out of my mouth that sounds like my mom I stop short, mid sentence. When exactly did I become my mother? I have a 10 and 14 yo. Pray for me ... and frankly for them. :O

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    1. I will for you, if you will for me, lolol!

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  4. isn't it amazing how our views change as we get older.

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    1. It really is! You'd think after four children I'd be used to it, but it still hits me by surprise sometimes. :)

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  5. I think colouring our hair and changing our hairstyles is just another way we can express ourselves (says me, who has plain brown hair in no particular style:). I love that people are brave enough to sport those vibrant colours, even though I sometimes feel old-fashioned about it:)
    Thanks for sharing,
    Kristina

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    1. I'm glad she chose red instead of green, hah! You're right though, it's just another form of expression, and in reality, it's pretty harmless. Thanks for stopping by. :)

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  6. Rosey.. I hear you... the second my parents saw long hair... that was it! I hate to think what your daughter will be dealing with if we're dealing with colored hair and multiple piercings. LOL! Good luck! ;) wink, wink. LOL!!! Grace, peace and blessings, Carla

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    1. You made me laugh, Carla!! I am now counting my blessings yet again, and thinking the hair color trend may not so bad after all. ;)

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  7. I was probably the weird one back in the day, always dressing a bit different, but never with funky hair colors. I always find those kind of people very interesting to talk to though! Our kids aren't allowed any color other than their natural at school, but if they ever asked, say during the summer or a temporary color on the weekends, I'd be a-ok with it.

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    1. Feathers weren't allowed when that was trendy, so I was surprised the school has acquiesced to bright/different hair colors. I asked her, 'Doesn't unusually colored hair violate the [no distractions] dress code?' And she said that since everyone is doing it, no one gets called out.

      Like you noted though, I think summer would be a much better time to experiment in such a way!

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  8. My Mother-in-Law always tells the story of my husband asking for permission to dye his hair orange back in high school. She still cringes at the thought of it and told us that when our son asks our permission to dye his hair and we say no, she said she'll even help our son dye his hair whatever color he likes! LOL!


    Love,

    Roxi @ Mr. Jacob's Mom
    www.MommyRoxi.com

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    1. But I bet she won't, hahhahahahha. Being a grandparent is the best, I can already see it! :)

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  9. My 8 year old feels the need to point out everyone with "different" colored hair. I had to explain to him that it's just the way people express themselves and try to stand out in the crowd.

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    1. My youngest (5) asks about things he finds different too. We saw a young man (maybe late 20's) w/a bandage on his nose yesterday at the grocery store & my son was incessant in asking why it was there (and quite loudly too). phfft :)

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  10. It's a nice was to express himself at the moment. I've seen a young girl in first grade with a streak of pink in her hair. Blue hair, pink hair - neither is permanent. Now if he had tats all over his face and gauges in his ears, that's when you run for the hills!lol

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    1. oh, Kristi...I am not a fan of gauges...the damage those things must do to your ear lobes??? (IF gauges are those big earrings that pull your ears way down).

      Totally agreeing w/you on the hair. It's not permanent. And he's a cutie even with blue hair. :)

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  11. LOL! Well I personally at almost 42 would love to be brave enough to sport Rihanna red hair. But I won't. It's the reverse here - my boys (the big one and the little one) would freak out before my parents would.

    Side note: My dad has already kicked up his feet and said "payback" to me several times and I'm only seven years in to motherhood.

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    1. ha! You get your humor from your daddy! yes? I love it. :)

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  12. I may be in the minority here, but I love all the cool hair colors everyone tries out, including blue! My favorite is Kat's "red" hair from Victorious. If I were 10 years younger I'd probably try something like that myself lol.

    Thanks for linking up with my NO RULES Weekend Blog Party!
    Paula
    lifeasweknowitbypaula.blogspot.com

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    1. My daughter likes that look too, and that show. :) Thanks for hosting the blog party!

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  13. My daughter is in the phase where she is loving red hair.....she wanted Rhianna red.....she was bummed when it turned out darker....I told her it was the color that she chose so that is what she gets to keep. = p

    Irish
    Dedicated2life.com

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    1. Seems like it's the trend everywhere. :)

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  14. Can't imagine what it'll be like when my daughter starts bringing love interests home... luckily for me she is just 3, I have a while to go! :) Danica

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    1. I think it was worse for me w/the boys! Lol. I'm not even kidding. :)

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  15. Gosh. However will I handle that then...I might be as laid back as you. Time will tell.

    Your post made me giggle.

    Yes one day she'll be 'the mom' :)

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    1. And I will relish the day, Colette. hehehe

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