This post is for the Stay at Home Moms. Not to impugn the importance of any other type of mom...I am just curious to ask this particular group of moms a question: Are you busier as a Stay at Home Mom than you were when you were working full-time?
I had a job in higher education administration for years. I loved it, and I was busy. I also was a mom, a wife, and a full-time student. But I still had time for me, the kids, playing, watching movies, reading my newspaper (yeah, I'm one of those people who likes an actual newspaper), etc.
Now that I am a stay-at-home mom, I've become ever so inventive in finding ways to pay my credit cards (because I wouldn't dare ask hubby or he'd banish them, given half of them have a balance and he's THE MOST FRUGAL person I've ever met <-- a very good quality, but one I don't so strictly possess). I also go to school (well, I'm writing my dissertation, which is basically the same thing...sort of), and I'm a wife...and of course, a mom. So, being at home you would think things would be easier, that I'd have more 'me' time, more time to relax? Right?
My favorite newspapers were stacked so high (and unread) that I cancelled the costly subscription. I'm constantly meeting deadlines, looking at a schedule of to-do things that is too congested, and chasing my tail to keep up. I have to force myself to carve out play time, and remind myself often that my family is my priority, not the other things that matter, but don't matter as much. And then there are the "unexpecteds" that pop up...like a call from the school to get my child who fell off of the monkey bars and the subsequent discussion with the pediatrician; a very dear sick family member; a friend in need, etc.
I'm not complaining. I like to be busy. But I am curious, if you are a stay-at-home mom, is it a LOT busier than you daydreamed it was going to be? I was thinking tons of play time with the little one, elaborate cooking, Mommy and Me classes, a little leisurely reading...hahahahahahahhahahahahhahahaha. In retrospect, I should have known better, but wouldn't my fantasy world have been such a nice reality?!? :)
My youngest just started school, so as soon as I finish my dissertation, my stay-at-home life will be over. But it sure was different than what I'd thought.
How about you?